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Joe, my love's birthday
Event Details
Time: August 1, 2012 all day
Location: My broken heart
Event Type: birthday
Organized By: Leeanne
Latest Activity: Aug 4, 2012
Event Description
First birthday in heaven. Miss you baby.
Comment Wall
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Comment by Dianne in Nevada on August 4, 2012 at 2:42pm -
I love that your day was so special, Leeanne. The cherry tree, the deer, peace. Just perfect.
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Comment by Leeanne on August 2, 2012 at 1:52am -
Thank you Cristina,
It really was wonderful as it could be.
I would really like to thank everyone for their wonderful supportive comments and good wishes. I know that my love, Joe, would be happy to know that I have found such an amazing group of people, but saddened to know how we all found each other. He was a very compassionate man.
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Comment by Cristina on August 1, 2012 at 7:10pm -
Leeanne, I'm glad your picnic was peaceful and beautiful. I'm sure your Joe was there by you in spirit, and also so glad to share the peace and beauty you and your daughter found. Best wishes.
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Comment by Leeanne on August 1, 2012 at 7:00pm
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Thank you Bonnie,
It was very peaceful, and our dog, who worked with Joe 6 days a week and was his full-time companion laid right on Joes flat headstone with his head down and a sad look on his face. He misses his daddy something awful too.
We took some of Joes favorite foods, flowers and a small balloon, a blanket and drinks. It was really nice, beautiful under the cherry tree where he rests. Deer walked by to check us out. Joe would have loved the whole thing. Strangely there were no tears, just peace.true peace for the first time since he passed.
We have a small cake for dessert tonight. All in all not a bad day.
Thanks for your support.
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Comment by bj628(Bonnie) on August 1, 2012 at 4:51pm -
Happy Birthday Joe. warm hugs and thoughts to you Leanne. Your plan sounds wonderful. We get so many great ideas from each other by sharing... What a wonderful place we have found.. so sad to be here. But so greatful for the understanding and sharing here.
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Comment by Leeanne on August 1, 2012 at 10:26am
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Joyce- thank you so much for your support. It means a whole lot.
Dianne- thanks to you as well, and you will have to let me know how your workshop turns out.
You have all been awesome, and it gives me hope that I might actually make it through this day still breathing.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY PRECIOUS LOVE. TI AMO TANTISIMO e MI MANKE TANTO!
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Comment by Dianne in Nevada on August 1, 2012 at 9:36am
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Your plans for the day sound lovely, Leeanne. You do whatever feels right for you. No rules on this.
I'm much farther out - 22 months - and I've spent each of my important event days alone so far. If it was a work day, I took it off. I just didn't want to HAVE to do anything other than what I felt like doing on that day or to feel I had to act a certain way if around others. It has worked well for me.
I do have plans for our 43rd wedding anniversary later this month. Signed up for an artsy/crafty/life-changing type workshop in Idaho. It felt like the right thing to do for myself this year.
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Comment by Joyce on August 1, 2012 at 8:08am -
Happy Birthday to Joe, sending hugs to you Leeanne. I don't think your celebration sounds strange at all, it sounds really nice.
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Comment by Leeanne on August 1, 2012 at 2:12am
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It is sad to have anything here in common, yet comforting to know there is someone else who " gets it" in the same timeline. I am really sorry for your loss .This seems to be the only place to go to talk to others in the same situation. Thank heaven for Widvill.
This would've been our 6th anniversary, but we were together 8 years and 3 days.
What are you going to do for yourself on the 20th? I was told by my therapist not to go blindly into these occasions but to have a plan.
For his birthday tomorrow, my 19 yo daughter, and my husbands dog and I are going to the Cemetary and taking a picnic. It sounds strange, but it is so beautiful there, we see many people quietly doing just that. No idea for the 20th yet, I did take it off from work though.
Thanks for writing...I have been lonely as anything this week.
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Comment by honeys(puddin) on July 31, 2012 at 4:49pm
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Reading your post took me by surprise. I had to read who wrote it because I thought it was me and I didn't remember writing it. My husband also has been gone 11 weeks and our 18th Anniversary is also on the 20th. Sad things for us to have in common:(
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