Hi everybody. My name is Steve and I was partnered to the same man over 30 yrs, until his passing in 2009 from cancer. We were both in our teens when we committed to each other and I loved him very much. I grieved hard for 3 yrs after his funeral and in 2013 I met a new wonderful man. Never thought it was possible to have these feelings again for another soul. Well new partner and I have been together now over 2 yrs and have reached a stage in our relationship where we are both considering the ending of our relationship. We both love each other very much, it will be very hard on both of us to break up, however, there are some problems we are trying to work on. One of which is my problem in the bedroom. I love my new partner very much, I'm very attracted to him emotionally, mentally and physically. But I can never reach "nirvana" with him, if you will forgive my euphomism. Everything is wonderful, all parts are a go, but no matter how I try, just can't get to a happy ending. I have no problem getting there on my own, everything is functioning normal, but for some reason, I'm holding back, this part of myself from him. I have never ever been there with anyone else but my first partner, and I wonder if it is some type of mental block, emotional block I am putting up because of loyalty or grieving, or something. My new partner has a problem with self esteem, and believes it's because secretly down inside, I'm not attracted to him. This has caused him to not want to be intimate with me, or if we do, it's awkward and uncomfortable. He finally told me why. It never bothered me. I just really enjoyed being with him and never realized it was a problem for him. Anyway, hope this subject is ok, don't mean to be crude or inappropriate, just wondering if any other people are having the same trouble.