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What are some of the feelings and experiences you associate with August? Anniversaries, birthdays, etc... or just the heat (if you are LUCKY enough to have it where you are, LOL), things that others are doing... things you USED to do together.
Let us know...and pop back in to see how others with strong feelings about August are doing!
Not a good month for me, Supa. Jimmy died on the 7th, I hate the combination of high heat/humidity. Bring on September and the autumn season - my favorite.
I love the idea to take your boys to the store so they could buy you a birthday gift. Wouldn't it be nice if your friend who SUGGESTED that took them??? Just sayin.... People just don't understand at all do they?
Hope you have a peaceful B-day twinsmum.
Three impending triggers for me this month:
1) Wedding anniversary
2) 6 month mark
3) Late husband's birthday
Becoming an empty nester. My youngest will head off to college at the end of this month. He took two years off between hs and college, he needed the time to deal with the accident and all. I have been blessed, my daughter went to college the fall right after the accident and I moved close to the university, as much to support her as to find some place where I could be involved and find some change and stability, all at the same time. So she has been close by all along. My son has lived with me and I have so enjoyed spending this much time with him, he is a wonderful young man now and Tim would be so proud and impressed by the love and support he has given me.
Well, now comes another life change. No kids at home!. I will miss Andrew so very much but it is the best thing for him. Go and find himself, spread his wings and see where life takes him. However, now I need to adjust to another "new normal", God, how I hate that term! I will miss Andrew so very much but along with that comes the grieving for the life that Tim and I would have had once the kids were grown. We had planned so much. We looked forward to traveling, spending time doing the things we always wanted, spending time together again. Working on the things we enjoyed, both separately and together, knowing the other was just down the hall, engaged in their own hobby, interest, activity, whatever. Now here I sit, knowing I will survive this, look what I have already survived. But scared that it just might be the thing that sinks me. I never dreamed that at 53 I would be all alone. I have spent my life caring for my family, I am busy outside the home, but that was not my first concern. Now, my kids are off to begin their lives and I am so proud and thrilled that they have started to bloom and have regained some measure of confidence, perhaps even more than they had before, because of what they have endured. I will watch them grow and guide them and be here for them, but they will not be back, at least not back to the way we have always been. They will always be my children, but now they will be becoming my grown, more independent children and I wonder how to take my next step. Will I always be alone? I don't really want to date. Most of my friends are married and have families keeping them busy. I have not managed to feel "safe" outside in social situations. I run a company, so I am not unable to leave the house, I just don't know where to go and trying to get involved in new activities is so draining on me emotionally that I tend to not want to do that.
This empty nest thing, well, it is just another new normal that I am not sure I know how to handle.
I survived the last new normal, and will survive this. Just need to find the energy and motivation to put one foot in front of the other.
I know my son will be back, but boy, I will miss him.
Have missed you and Joe around here, Krista. Hope you're both ok.
We're both hanging in there. (I'll send you a message in a bit.)
The 23rd would have been Mike's 35th birthday. :( Don't know what we will be doing on that day. I think his mother and sister may want to do something, but I am not sure how I feel about it or what I want to do. Part of me wants to get some of his friends together and just reminisce, but it's on a weekday, so I don't see that happening.