Its such a lovely day but spending it alone is the pits. Seems harder and harder to connect with friends, not that I have a lot of friends and I am missing my hubby so much. I try to keep busy, but there are more hours in the day than things to do. Will be so glad when the snow is gone. Anyone have any suggestions how to meet people?
I would start by searching for groups of people that do things you are interested in, be it reading, knitting, crafting, games, exercise, etc.. Whether this is a grief/loss group (Check griefshare.org or with local hospices to find out if there is something in your area) or a church group or other interest (check Meetup). You might find there are other people looking for connection.
I have the similar problem...how to meet people. I lost my best friend, love of my life, in Nov. 2016. We were together 44years! Just 5 months without him feels more like 5 years. Time passes so slowly, the days so long. I do not mind being alone but find myself roaming the (little)townhouse many times through the day wondering "now what do I do". How do I fill my time. People assure me I will find myself in time and I should just relax and let it happen when it does. What if it never does? Luckily, I love to walk so that passes some time. I am going to go back to the gym (Silver Seakers, thank you) and that will at least get me out and amongst people.
I too seem to walk in my house and just look around wondering what to do . I keep cleaning out rooms. But you can only clean rooms so often. I love listening to audiobooks as I work / clean. I need a list of new audiobooks. I'm running out of titles.
44 years! That's wonderful. Paul passed when he was 62. We were married for 38 years. ( High School sweethearts ) I found myself as a widow at age 59 ... Not young, not old. Stuck somewhere in the middle.
I like walking the routes we both use to walk together.
Good luck in all you do.
I went on Meetup.com. They have every topic imaginable to join a group. I joined 3, but my favourite is the Widows/widower group. It's not about bereavement it's about having fun with people who get what you are going through. So if you do tear up at something, people understand.
Church groups are iffy, I hate to say, as I am a christian, but they were the worst for being judgemental, & saying stupid things.
I got a part time job. small company, that is the main thing. Big companies are too big to care about people.
I'm with you about the snow. How I hate Nov - April. Can't even take the dogs to off leash as they will be covered in mud now.
I really feel for you, it is so hard. & you have to do it alone, until a spouse dies, you don't really know how "alone" can feel.