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The movie "Bucket List" came out AFTER my LH died and it seemed weird to me, then, the idea of preparing a list of things to do before you die... and I am not really someone to pick up on this sort of trend.
It's been long enough now to not seem morbid to me (for example, I have a will and EOL plan, at last!), and the idea of the bucket list has proven pretty durable. I'm hoping to actually retire someday and be able to do things like travel, which just seemed unnecessary and impossible a few years ago... (Still seems hard to imagine where the money would come from though!)
Would love to hear your thoughts... and plans... whether they're pie-in-the-sky or whether you've already reached them!
Very, very touching. What a way to honor him.
Patrick and I had a bucket list that we wanted to do after he got his transplant. I still plan on doing a lot of it, but for different reasons. Right now most of them are on hold until I am in better shape, but we have a few things that the kids and I have already started planning.
Go for it, Sam. It will be special in a different way. You and your kids could probably use the boost!
I don't really have a bucket list of any kind, but KC and I worked all the time at work and even harder at home. This was so we could do what ever we wanted as we got older. He had it planed out so we could retire at age 55 and still be young enough to enjoy what we wanted to do. Well now if I feel like taking off someplace with a days notice I do it. I could be gone tomorrow, next week or next year. I'm going to see more and do more because I'm doing it all for both of us now. I don't like doing it all alone, but I know I have KC with me with each step just the way it should have been. But now I'm the only one that knows he's there.
That's wonderful, Lisa. I'm glad you will do this.
Yes, Lisa, do it! I've been to Key West, San Diego and Myrtle Beach since I lost Vern and during each trip I felt he was right there experiencing it with me. I think I appreciate and experience these trips at a deeper level now because of that - I'm seeing it all through both of our eyes.
That is good to hear. I am avoiding trips like crazy. Partly because we had to travel so much last your for treatment for Jud. I also have to be in a mobility scooter part of the time and can't manage it all myself, so I have to be with someone who will help me, at least with the battery. i love travel so much and we did a lot of it. I don't want to have to give it all up!!!
I've never really had a bucket list because I have always taken life and lived every day of it. I've gone, I've done and I've experienced. This year, on the anniversary of his death I started a new tradition of travelling that week. So, I took off, alone, for New York City and Montreal. I thoroughly enjoyed myself and I talked to strangers. I've already made plans for a road trip to Newfoundland next year. It might be Paris the following year. It's my way of accomplishing things, honoring him and not being home alone on the anniversary.
Susan, I like your way of thinking. I've been pondering the idea of taking the week off of the 1 year anniversary of Daves death and visiting Yosemite, maybe by myself, and take some of his ashes. There are so many memories there. That is where we honeymooned and started our life. We camped, hiked and backpacked all over Yosemite.
I should start looking into either camping or getting a hotel soon as the date is approaching.
I am working on my bucket list, Robert and I joked about his bucket list but never actually wrote it out, I need to write my down on paper. This Aug. will be our one year sadiversary and I'm taking our whole clan of kids and partners on a two week trip to Alaska, renting a big RV and we will be doing all the things that we use to do with their Dad when we all would go. I know that will make Robert happy, us all being together in a place so dear to his heart. I would like to take some of his ashes to leave there, not sure I'm ready for that, if not next year.
I can not understand a bucket list now. We thought of those things when we would retire. Mike had just turned 57 and had only worked with the State for 10 years, so several more until he could retire. There is absolutely nothing I would want to do without him, but that is just me. It has been almost 3 years and I still can not believe this could ever have happened. I had always wanted him with me to go places. I was never one on being with the girls, etc. He was on my arm since I was 14 and he was 16 and I was always SO PROUD, even till the end. I don't think I ever told him this.
I really don't know how people do this. Phyllis