Today I blindsided by something I hadn't thought about too much, what to do with my engagement and wedding rings now that my husband is gone and when do I stop wearing them. Today I had to take them of to get them cleaned and inspected (I lost Ray February 2014). I started to panic when the jeweler suggested I keep them off and them them resized. I was panicking just the 5 minutes they were off. Then my boss mentioned that she thought widows were suppose to wear their engagement ring/wedding ring on their right hand now. has anyone heard this? It threw me off guard. Also made me sad and panicked; when i put these on it was forever. I haven't even been able to stop wearing his wedding ring on a chain daily, how do I deal with this? Anyone have any ideas/experience in this?
There are other threads on this issue, but I don't think there are any right or wrong answers on what to do with rings. One friend I made at Camp Widow put both her and her husband's wedding bands on a necklace and it looked nice. Unfortunately, I just lost my wedding band when I was on a bike ride last weekend. I guess the sweat lubricated my finger and it fell off. I noticed I kept trying to touch the ring this week and I had to tell myself that it was no longer there. I thought if I remarried, I would wear both rings. My wife's wedding/engagement rings are in a safe deposit box.
My wife had a beautiful engagement ring from her first husband that she does not wear. We took it and a bracelet my late wife bought me and had a jeweler make a beautiful pendant out of it
There is a picture of it in my profile
I have only had a wedding band, plain. Shortly after Frank passed, I knew I wanted a ring to go with it - a simple solitaire of his birthstone, aquamarine, in 10K yellow gold to go with the wedding ring. I finally found one and I love how they look together. I can't imagine ever taking off my wedding ring. I still feel married (9 months out).
I have a question from a Widower's perspective. Sandy had a huge jewelry collection. I personally picked out and purchased most of it. I gave away all the costume jewelry and all the hand-made sliver Indian jewelry from New Mexico. I gave her sisters some of the nicer pieces of fine jewelry. Now I'm down to a few pieces that are so sentimental, I don't know what to do with them. Those are her very simple diamond wedding ring ( by far her most favorite piece of jewelry she owned). Also, her solid gold hand made dangly anniversary ear rings, an emerald cut diamond solitaire ring and a collection of stuff made of her favorite gem stone... the emerald.
I don't wear jewelry at all, so I cannot use it. But what should be done with it? I also don't have a daughter, only a narcissistic son who ain't talking to me since his mom's funeral. Got some creative ideas, ladies? The wedding ring I know I couldn't bear to let someone else wear just because it would drive me nuts if it got lost. The other stuff, I'm not sure.
Thank you for your kind response. The more I think about it, the only piece that's absolutely crazy sentimental is that very simple hand made wedding ring. She loved the uniqueness of the design. She loved the simplicity. And she had tiny long beautiful hands and fingers (I'm not just making this stuff up as she got compliments on her dainty hands throughout her life) and the little ring rather went with them. And I think it was the only piece that SHE was insanely sentimental over. I'm going to try to upload a picture of it to show you.
I have remarried, and the discussion came up about what to do with her engagement ring. We found a design for a pendant in Kauai, and took it to our jeweler. She contributed her engagement ring, and I contributed a bracelet my late wife gave me. This is the result:
These pieces are beautiful, PolarBear and Talisker.
I was widowed 7 1/2 months ago, and I had my engagement ring resized for my right hand (it's slightly bigger than my left thanks to 26 years of heavy-duty flute playing). My wedding band matches it, but I no longer wear it. My husband's wedding ring is yellow gold; my set is white gold. I wore his ring on a necklace for four months but took it off after our anniversary in August. I haven't yet decided what to do with those rings. I may make them into a new piece, or I may just keep them as a reminder of the vows we fulfilled. I've attached a photo from our wedding. We didn't get to have a second anniversary; this is from August 2013.