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Today I blindsided by something I hadn't thought about too much, what to do with my engagement and wedding rings now that my husband is gone and when do I stop wearing them.  Today I had to take them of to get them cleaned and inspected (I lost Ray February 2014).  I started to panic when the jeweler suggested I keep them off and them them resized.  I was panicking just the 5 minutes they were off. Then my boss mentioned that she thought widows were suppose to wear their engagement ring/wedding ring on their right hand now.  has anyone heard this? It threw me off guard.  Also made me sad and panicked; when i put these on it was forever.  I haven't even been able to stop wearing his wedding ring on a chain daily, how do I deal with this?  Anyone have any ideas/experience in this?

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I cannot imagine ever taking my engagement ring off. The ring was his grandmothers, it was a right hand ring and it was always his favorite. When he got engaged to his wife he gave her another diamond that was his grandfathers, he never felt she deserved the ring that was his favorite. When he gave me this ring he said I could have it reset into a new ring but I loved it so much I could never imagine changing a thing. His grandmother had great taste. Because his divorce was not final it is one of the only things I have from him, I'll treasure it forever.

It's been just over a year since my wife passed, I remember for a few months I wore my wedding ring, but somewhere along the line took to wearing her ring on my right hand (pinky, the only finger that it fits) I always have it on when I go out, off and on in the house. I suppose it makes me feel a bit closer to her.


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