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Here's a spot where you can post your special February remembrances - wedding anniversaries, birthdays, anniversaries of your loss, children's weddings, etc. - and discuss the plans you have to get through those potentially hard days. 

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My guy's birthday is February 6th. He's been gone 7 years now and would have been turning 77. That number is hard to hear for some reason. 

The first years I took the day off work and just stayed home on his birthday, doing whatever I needed to do to get through the day ... looking at photos, reading my CaringBridge journal, watching movies, whatever. One year Camp Widow fell on his birthday.  This year I bought tickets to a Frankie Moreno concert (no, not the Vegas cross dresser ... this Frankie is an amazing singer/songwriter). My husband worked a special VIP event on the top of the Barbary Coast before he got sick and he came home raving about this kid that was the entertainer there ... Frankie Moreno.  So I think my guy will be sitting at the table with me for this one.

It's awesome that  Frankie Moreno's concert coincided with his birthday.  I just bet your guy will be with you!  I hope you have a wonderful time.  

I had to edit this to add:  I had to google Frankie, and I don't know if you realize this or not but his birthday is on the 7th.  It must be a sign.  He is amazing, I'd love to see him too. 

My only son will be turning 21 years old on the 27th!  

Yes, he mentioned his birthday was the next day (he had another concert that night at a different location). And his saxophone player's wife's birthday was the 6th when I was there and they sang Happy Birthday to her. So I just substituted Vern's name while singing it. It was a lovely night.

That's awesome, Dianne! I'm sure Vern will be with you!

hubby's birthday coming up on the 17th, not sure how or what to do to get thru.  I am at 20 months now and it seems so much worse this year. 

My birthday is on the 21st. I'll be 64. I was 59 when he died.  That is amazing to me that he never saw me in my 60s. He was 61 when he died.

I'm planning on taking the day off. It's not that I need to do this but I want a day off and this is a good day to do it.

We often went on vacation in February. Such good times!

Super Bowl Sunday. My husband loved football and we’d host a party every year. 

My Love also did. Wow were both from Philly. He loved and followed the Eagles forever and now they won their first Super Bowl ever. I wanted to celebrate with him and did not know what to do with myself. It was a difficult night. I reach out to my Dad who is also a fan, just turned 75. My Love was 45 when he died of a heart attack or stroke (still not sure of what as the autopsy report has not arrived yet) I miss him so much. its only been two months.

My husband would have enjoyed watching that game and seeing the Eagles win. 

Valentine's Day back to back with my Sweethearts birthday on the 15th of February. My Angel just passed on November 27th. He was a heaven sent being that graced my world for 1.3 years. I am most saddened by the future we will never have. And the sudden loss stealing the opportunity for me to share more of my heart with him...He was my Divine Compliment and I am just torn to pieces. Deeply depressed and not sure what to do with myself. He was the most gentle, humble, and provocative being i have ever met....we just moved in together four months before his sudden death. It is so deeply saddening. We decorated our home, started dreaming our lives together and suddenly he was gone...i am beside myself. Please help...i miss this being with every cell of my being...the pain is something I cannot describe. i just do my best to have some kind of a day and keep breathing...i mean he was the most kind and deeply compatible being i have ever considered having a relationship with. He was it for me...we were both from Philly from the same generation, loved the same music, spoke the same lingo, our sense of humor totally gelled...his sense of style and cool hipness side by side with humility was so attractive; his respect and understanding for women was unprecedented, i felt loved and revered, listened to and cared for in the deepest of ways. We were attracted to similar spiritual things; when you walked into our apartment, You would not be able to tell what was his and mine. it was integrated in such a way that You would think ONE...we danced, laughed, loved nature and synergistically connected on every level. We had our moments of stubbornness and disagreements but always came back to unconditional love. I just feel the absence of his sweet being in my life  is completely intolerable. i don't know what to do with myself. It is so hard. I can barely breathe. Imagine a being of equanimity, love, deep empathy and listening, patience, and great fun gracing Your attractive and loving. what is this one to do...? Ah souls suffering with similar pain, please speak to me Your woe. I am here...for You for me, for we...


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