For those who have dated... how did you know when you were ready?

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Permalink Reply by Jerry on May 13, 2013 at 6:03pm

Hi Paul, about a year and a half after my wife passed away I signed up on Match.com . I put in my profile I was just looking for a friend to go,to dinner, movies,etc. nothing more was said,like finding a new love, or sharing a life together. I said i wasnt ready for anything more,and not sure if i would ever be. I got two,sort of negative replies, saying why was I on the site wasting peoles time. I am not one that dated much before I was married ,,but I have been told that some people take the way I feel as a challenge, to see if they can change the other persons mind.This lady met is a widow of 5 years,she was married 30 plus years as I was. But it seems from what she told me,her marriage had more then its share of rough spots.She seems to want something different then I want in a relationship. I have told her more then a few times she is free to pursue her dates on Match,but so far she has not done so.

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Permalink Reply by Mford4 (Marlene) on May 12, 2013 at 9:23pm

Hi Donna,  My single friends have talked to me about dating again.  A friend came over and pushed me to sign up on Match.com so we did for a month.  I joked that if I had self esteem problems before they are truly cemented in now!!!!  In one month the only men who responded on match.com were scammers.  You could pick them out right away.  They all were engineers, were out of the country for the next six weeks and went right to wanting your email and phone as they were dropping their subscription tot he site.  My friend reminded me that I should not take it seriously because no one met up with me and really didn't know me...that is easy to say but not always easy to experience.  I have since taken down my profile and have no desire to go there again.  Don't like being alone.  My daughter does meet-ups which are interesting because they are not a one on one and you can do something you are interested in and if you meet someone okay and if not...well you still had a good time.  Good luck.  Marlene

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Permalink Reply by crying on May 14, 2013 at 11:13am

Hi donna

I myself have been throwing around the same idea.  i didn't want to spend the money not knowing if I was really ready or not.  I did POF plenty of fish it is free.  I wrote that I was a widow wanted to take things slowly and my husband was always going to be a part of my life.  To date i have not posted a picture so I don't get many hits.  Two guys contacted me.  The first one we talked and texed and laugh for about a week.  Got along.  I was meeting him for a drink right by my house (he didn't know how close it was) That morning he texted me he was sick and had to cancel.  Later he texted me how sorry he was but if I wanted to I could come over.  DONT THINK SO.  The next day I texted him and askedhim how he felt and if he was blowing me off.  He said no we will reschedule.  Haven't heard from him since.  The next guy once again talked and texted for about a week.  Met him for breakfast he was about 40 minute away.  Had a nice time felt very comfotable with each other.  He told me he would call me later.  He did we talked over two hours on the phone.  Once again laughing and getting along.  The next morning he texted me to have a great day.  Now I haven't heard from him either???? I also wrote it my bio I wasn't playing games.Well I guess I am.  I know two isn't that many but I had the best guy ever..and I have no patience for this BS.  But like all I hate being alone.  I know I don't want to ever get remarried just want to get out and see more then my basement.  I have loooked at meetups and they are all far from me...but maybe I will try that being I really don't know if i do want to date...so messed up life wasn't suppose to be like this...I hated dating when I wa young!!!

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