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Permalink Reply by RobertBear (Bob) on August 31, 2011 at 12:28am Patti,
...sounds more like intelligence than chicken-ness.
We got hit a bit hard. I had some water in the basement but not nearly as bad as many places. I glad you got through it too.
~Robert
Permalink Reply by RobertBear (Bob) on August 30, 2011 at 11:22pm Tanya,
Thanks for being part of that support and understanding.
~RB
O-M-G!! I am so very sorry for you, your children, and Michelle. What a bum rap!! Robert, the next few months are going to be the weirdest of your life. Your moods will swing like a rope swing on an April day - crazy thoughts will come out of nowhere. All of it is part of the process. Grieving is hard work - many of us tried to skirt around it by various methods. All of us found out you have to hit it head on and get through it to the other side. I'm just over two out, having lost my Jimmy in August 2009 from esophageal cancer. He was 65, I was 53. The absolute love of my life - could not imagine life without him. I did wild and crazy things I wouldn't dream of doing now, and was blessed and protected throughout. The feelings never go away, but each of us does learn to cope. It sounds like you and your Michelle had a wonderful love story. I hope you stick with us and allow us to help you grieve.
Marly
Permalink Reply by RobertBear (Bob) on August 30, 2011 at 11:23pm
Permalink Reply by carolynne on August 30, 2011 at 11:26pm
Permalink Reply by RobertBear (Bob) on August 31, 2011 at 12:22am Thanks Carolynne. I hope we can all lift each other up. ((hugs))
Permalink Reply by MsKris12 on August 31, 2011 at 10:15am Thanks for sharing your story, my heart hurts for you and your children. I hope you find the support,comfort and understanding here.
((HUGS)) and blessings to you
Kris
Permalink Reply by RobertBear (Bob) on August 31, 2011 at 11:07am Thanks Kris. ((HUGS)) & blessings to you too.
Permalink Reply by Nance on August 31, 2011 at 10:38am Hi Robert:
I am so sorry for your loss. I also lost my husband (unexpectedly) just when the kids were on their own and we thought we were going to get to do some of the things we had put off. To find your self suddenly alone at 57 is very difficult. I also moved. I couldn't stand living in the house we had built together and we had wanted to move to be on the water when Mark retired. So I bought a condo on the water and my son is now in the house. Take things a day at a time and know that there are others out there keeping you in their thoughts and prayers.
Nancy
Permalink Reply by RobertBear (Bob) on August 31, 2011 at 11:09am Thanks Nance. We were considering downsizing before M got diagnosed. I'll probably do that.. but when? At this point, I cannot foresee having the energy. Kudos to you for getting it done.
I am sorry for your loss.
~Robert
Permalink Reply by Nance on August 31, 2011 at 11:24am You'll know when it's the right time for you. I just did it...everything just seemed to happen. If not for great friends who actually came over and said, "We're packing your house today" I don't think it would have happened. Since my son is moving into the house, I also had a year to move things on weekends, so it was a gradual process for me.
Take care,
Nance
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