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Permalink Reply by Paula on -
lost my husband Bill 2 years ago this Friday to pancreatic cancer. It is a very dire disease but he really lost any quality of life after only one chemo treatment. It was stage 4 , always fatal. I don't know why they even did that to him.
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Permalink Reply by Jerry on
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I hate to say this but I believe it is a money thing.The hospital we went to in NYC has a chemo center that is like a factory going 6 day a week, 12 hours a day. I am sure it is one of the high profit areas of the hospital. I hate to feel like this, but from what I have eperienced,it seems true to me.
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Permalink Reply by mahagen on -
I hope you are wrong, Jerry. Mike was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer, 95% fatal, we were told without treatment he might have 3 months, with treatment he might get 6 to 9 months. He lived 27 months, and most of them were very good months. We took 3 vacations, including a cruise. He fulfilled a desire to volunteer at a school, listened to first graders read for 1 and a half years. Yex, chemo (7 kinds) and radiation (3 kinds) were hard, but I believe they gave us 20 extra months to build memories and share love.
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Permalink Reply by Dorothy on -
Yes if u catch it in time treatmants may work,
My hbby cancer just kept spreading.
Then when it went to the brain they said if he would get radation he would last 2 months.
So he did and only lasted a month.
But he wanted to try so we did.
Dorothy
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Permalink Reply by Renee on -
Hi Dorothy,
I m so sorry for you loss, my husband was very sick and it is
a hard to watch someone you love go through so much just
to try and stay with their love ones.
hugs,
Renee
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Permalink Reply by Dorothy on
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YES IT IS AND I ALSO HEARD THEY KNOW A CURE FOR CANCER.
BUT THERE JUST NOT LETTING IT OUT B/C CHEMO AND RADATION IS A BIG MONEY MAKER.
AND IT SURE DOES COST ALOT OF MONEY TO GET ,TREATMENTS.
Dorothy
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Permalink Reply by Paula Rene on -
I am so sorry for your loss as well. My book club selected a book that I would never have read on my own, The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks. It is about a poor black woman who had cervical cancer in the 1950's and was treated at John Hopkins. Apparently, her cells never died and the researchers took advantage of the situation. I am mortified at what was done to that woman and her family. Her cancer cells gave rise to the cure for polio, many forms of cancer, etc. Biotech companies made millions off of selling her cells and her family did not even have indoor plumbing nor could they get medical care. My husband died after heart surgery w/complications from his Diabetes and was in a coma for a month. It was horrible enough. I can't imagine what life would be like dealing w/what so many of you have dealt with. But what this poor women went through was unforgivable. I am still reading the book and praying for some good to come to the Lacks family b/c of this women, who was never even given credit. Her cells are called HeLa cells. I am not sure it is a good read for someone who lost a loved one to cancer but when I read it, it made me feel like my life wasn't quite as crappy as hers and her family's.
They just treated poor black families w/whatever was easiest & cheapest. And, then when they landed on this incredible woman w/her miracle cancer cells, they made a fortune, lied to her family and even tested them to see if they could get something out of them (telling them they were checking them for their mother's cancer). We've come a long way but still lying, cheating, money-making jerks in my opinion.
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Permalink Reply by Connie on -
My Roger, too, with stage 4 pancreatic cancer. He was 66. We managed 10 mos. of painful treatment. But he wanted to do it. He was trying to make it to our daughter's college graduation, but didn't :( I couldn't tell him not to. I didn't want him to think I wasn't willing to fight with him.
He died a year ago this coming April 9th. It all stinks!
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Permalink Reply by topwag (Becky) on -
My son's wedding was planned for July 23, 2011 and the cancer center wouldn't us to have him move the date up.... I thought because my husband might be weak, because they never ever told us he would not make it through the treatment. Anyway, we did not feel it was our wedding to change so we never asked them. He died three months before the wedding. That was the worst, sitting there on the front row of our son's wedding without him there. I will never agree to cancer treatment if I, god forbid, get that horrible beast.
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Permalink Reply by Dorothy on
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I really don't know what i would do.
But my hubby was soooo sick and for what he still passed..
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Permalink Reply by going to make it on -
After losing 2 husbands to cancer, I began doing a lot of research and, in my opinion, there is already a cure for cancer but I don't believe we will see it being used in the US. There iso too much money to be made by the drug companies, drs & hospitals. They aren't in the business of curing! What business will last if you don't have customers? Our insurance company paid out over 1/2 million to cancer treatments, and would've continued to pay as long as my husband wanted to go BUT wouldn't pay 20,000 for us to have treatment at a facility out of the country with proven success! I wanted him to go so bad I went to the bank to get a home equity loan, but he wouldn't let me do it. He said he didn't want me having that debt. I always encourage anyone who can to go out of the US, but most are trapped in the system, just as we were. My husband did some treatments, but not because he wanted to our because he thought they would work. He did them for for me, my lil girl and his mom.
CTCA was a great place & they do use things others don't. My husband was given less than 2 weeks when he was dx, but lived over a year. We vacationed, we went on missions, he preached God's love to anyone he came in contract with. That us what he loved. In the end though, even CTCA doesn't have the permission to use what they know will CURE cancer. I believe our drs wanted to but their hand are tied in this country.
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This is a sore subject with me. I beleive that the AMA and the insurance companies are some how connected. It is often that the insurers wont pay for a less costly treatment that has been proven to work in other countries, but will pay for the more expensive one recommended by doctors in the US. If we werent afraid of the high cost of medical treatment we wouldnt opt to pa the high insurance premiums.
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