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{{{camry}}} So sorry to hear you need this group, but so glad you found it. I couldn't make it on this journey without the people here. As great as my family and friends are, this isn't something they can help me with really. I need others who are walking the same path as I am.

I'm quite a bit further along the journey than you, so I'm sure this might not ring true for you right now, but it does get easier with time and good support from others who understand and can relate and offer some insight.

 

GIANT HUGS!

Hi Camry.  Welcome.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  My husband passed away unexpectedly 14 months ago.  Our kids are 15, 16, and 17.  praying you will find the comfort and encouragement, and understanding that I have found here.

My husband passed away Novemer 2011.  Very suddenly.
He was 68 yrs old and we were married 44 yrs.
I'm really starting to miss him and I look forward to being part widows voice.

SO SORRY FOR THE DEATH OF YOUR HUSBAND! {{{HUGS}}} So glad you found this group! Has been such a great help for me on this journey!

Welcome to this site where no one wants to have to be, but we are all thankful to have it!  My husband and I were married almost 43 years when he died in 2008 at age 63.  I was numb for a long time, and am still adjusting to this new life without him.  Some days I feel fairly 'adjusted,' and then something happens to make me realize that I'll probably never be 'fully adjusted.'  With lots of prayer and the help of our Creator I am building a nice 'new life,' but I'll always long for my husband and my 'old life.'  Any contact with couples we associated with in the past intensifies the longing because I see them still having 'their life' together, like my husband and I had, and I keenly feel what I am missing.  It's good to have this site to be able to express these feelings!  

Hi Jeanine,
I am new to this site. My husband died in Novemer 2011. We would have been married 44 years this August. He was 69 yrs old and I am 67 yrs old. I am still numb and I really miss him. We had a core group of couples that we did everything together. We moved into a 55 yrs old complex and it was the best thing we did. We lived here for six years before he passed away. These couples have been so supportive and I feel blessed to have them in my life. Ken and I said this was the best move we made because we said if any thing happened to either one of us we knew the other one would be taken care of. The Lord works in strange ways and it was like he had this plan for us so that I would be taken care of. It is still so lonely but I am so grateful for the support of my kids and my friends. I just wish I could get over the lonely times at night.
My husband passed away Novemer 2011.  Very suddenly.
He was 68 yrs old and we were married 44 yrs.
I'm really starting to miss him and I look forward to being part widows voice.

Hello everyone. I lost my husband, Corey, on April 28th, 2012 - exactly 8 yrs to the day that we met.  We were married for just over 7 yrs, no kids, but 3 furbabies.  Corey died of complications from a liver transplant that I feel were caused by medical negligence. I'm still trying to figure out exactly what caused him to go from almost being discharged to going into septic shock in less than a week.  He had been in the hospital since Dec 28th, 2011, and it was such a long, hard, roller coaster of a winter and it ended in a way that none of us (including the doctors) expected. Needless to say, this isn't making the grieving process any easier right now.

I'm glad to have found this site, even though I'm sorry that we're all here.  I think the numbness is starting to wear off because I'm crying more now in the past week than I have since immediately after he died. I know everyone says it gets "better" but right now it's tough to believe.

I know that so soon after your husbands passing it is hard to believe that things will get better,they will as time goes by. As far as my self, I try to remember the happier times ,not dwelling on the times in the hospital or the last few months at home under hospice care. It is not easy, there are things that will always trigger the bad things. I have many pictures of my wife around the house and when I pass by them I try to smile and remember the time and place the photo was taken,it seems to help me.

Hi Everyone. I am new to this site.

I am a 49 year old mother of 3 from Southern Ontario Canada. My husband Jerry died on Nov 2/11 at the age of 51 while out for his morning run. It was a total shock. One minute he was  sitting on the steps putting on his running shoes, and a few minutes later the firefighters  were banging on my door telling me he's down.  Down, really meant dead, but they were being kind.It's been a surreal 7 1/2 months to say the least. Trying to deal with our 2 companies that I was only slightly involved in. He was a race director  and 5 days after his funeral  there was an event to put on. Talk about being in a daze. Luckily I knew people who could step in and help because I was in la-la land.  3 days after that he received a lifetime business achievement award from our local hospital for raising  charitable donations. And I had to make an acceptance speech on his behalf. Talk about out of my element at the worst time in my life.  Things were pretty crazy and I got very overwhelmed. Currently going through a rough patch that I am trying desperately to get out of. Things need to get done and they just aren't. What I hate the most is that NOTHING is the same and it hurts so much to know it never will be. He is dearly missed :(

Welcome Jody, my husband died on October 11, 2011 from a 2 1/2 year battle with cancer.  Wow, you sure were thrown into a stuff you never had to do before at such a bad time.  I understand about the rough patch, it sounds like you were so busy in the beginning your just starting grieving now.  Just try to take baby steps, things will get done in their own time, unfortunately they wait for you.   Hugs, keep coming here and reading it will help you.

Hi, I just joined tonight thanks to Alannah. My dear John died on the second of June due to a pulmonary embolism at age 39. We would have been married 8 years this coming July/known each other 12 years this coming December. For days he had trouble breathing and I begged him to seek help. He didn't. On the 2nd he collapsed; I rushed out from our condo to see him being helped up, he begging the paramedics to remove his oxygen mask. Then he panicked, hyperventilating. Oh I have to stop...it is still too raw.

My husband and I are childfree and pet free (though the pet part could change). I am 37 years old, living in Northern NJ, and currently looking for employment.

I miss you so much, my John. Please wait for me.

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