Oh so pleased you might think about a senior rescue, so many wonderful older dogs/cats get dumped for a younger version. I love pups but man I old mature dogs but are chilled out.
My 90 year-old neighbor just had to put down her 15-year-old dog which she got after her husband died. She is looking for a new one! She has a terrible back problem and has CNAs in round the clock, and a dog-walker. She wants a dog already trained, calm (i.e not a puppy) and tall enough she can pet while she's in her recliner. She is calling the shelters to explain her situation and ask for recommendations. I was surprised at first but then I understood.
I have a dog, almost 4, and content with that. (I'm almost 60 but have back and hip problems; I limp along walking every day with him; I know it is good for me even though painful sometimes.) I keep in touch with friends and neighbors but don't feel the need to go out and socialize. But I've been an introvert for much of my life. I have hobbies, gardening, piano, many other projects I start and have a hard time finishing. But my dog gives me structure to my days and love. And makes me smile, gives me someone to talk to besides myself and late loved ones. I have a couple close long-distance friends that I really appreciate. Maybe you and your friend can make phone dates? And consider a pet? I think I would feel lonely without my dog.
Oh thats so awesome, and you are right if my dogs weren't here I would hardly get out of bed in the morning let alone walk but I try for an hours walk each day up the forest were we all used to walk it's nice. I agree the older dogs have so much to give, I used to be at SPCA here adopting dogs out and the older ones seemed to know and be so grateful for a home.
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Dan, so sorry for your loss. Same way with my husband and me, I was with him through everything. Hardest thing anyone ever has to do it tell someone it's ok to go.
It was the same for myself and my husband. We did everything together and I mean everything, pretty much 24/7 and were together for 25 years up until his last moment. I was still "in love" with him. The hardest, most devastating and desperate feeling is the missing him so much it actually nauseates me. Thank god for my kids, otherwise, I am not sure where I would be.
It has been 7 months and there is more joy, but the part of missing him is not easier, for me it is harder as each day passes.
I'm so sorry for your loss, my husband and I were together 24/7 for 33 yrs as we ran out own business together. Once he got sick I cared for him and as all appointments were 1-2 hrs drive away I was his full time driver so with him for every appointment. I fought like a she a she-wolf when they said he couldn't leave hospital but I got him home to the farm and his dog. I also had to tell him it was OK for him to go tramp the clouds in heaven and if his old dog came for him it was OK for him to go with him. Broke me to lose him, sending hugs