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Good luck it sounds like you have a plate full that you are going through.  I am always here and available to listen and offer any support that I can.


Hugs. Hope you find the support tutu need here. I'm pretty sure this site saved what's left of my sanity. I'm widowed twice. My 1st husband was my high school sweetheart. Married 30 years, have 2 grown kids, 1 almost 16yo (6 when he died), & 7 wonderful gbabies together. He was my best friend & at times my worst enemy. Love of my life. I did remarry, but sadly only 6 months later he was dx wuth stage 4 cancer. We had 1 1/2 years together, most of that spent in hospitals. He did make sure we some fun trips together.
Now it's me & my girl. My older 2 are married & gone. Son is deployed, daughter 3hrs away. I don't see myself ever marrying again. Something you said hit home with me. I'd like to find a friend to go to dinner with, see movies, maybe do some traveling. I'm content with that. I feel I've had the love of a lifetime.
Im so very very sorry you're on this journey.

I want to thank you for your words of encouragement.  I am very sorry that you have to go through the death of a husband on two occasions. That would be so hard to deal with.  Especially since your second husband wound up living such a short period of time after that marriage started.  I am not saying I would not remarry for fear of having to deal with death again.  The reason I will not go there again is because the only way I know to love is totally and completely.  In my mind anything less would not be fair to the person that I would be marrying.  My wife that died in January truly was the love of my life and I could not half-heartedly do it again.

Hugs! So very sorry your heart is hurting! My husband was also my high school sweetheart. He also kept his cancer from everyone (including me for over a year).
I hope you find the support you need, on this site. It was my saving grace early on.


My deepest condolences.  I lost my wife, who was 45, a little over a year ago at age 45.  She passed from Stage IV breast cancer that spread to her liver.  She literally died in my arms as I was screaming for help at 5AM,.... there was a shift change and no one was around, except for a nurse manager. I know what you are going through right now.  Take things 1 hour, 1 day at a time.  This site is very supportive, and we will be here for you.


BatteryPark Widower

Wow! The parallels we share are so close. I also held my wife as she passed at 4:15 in the morning but we were at home. Also had Stage IV Breast Cancer spread to the Liver (and other areas). Thanks for the words of encouragement. I thought I was beginning to handle things OK and then our family dog of 13 years was also diagnosed with cancer and we had to put her down yesterday. That really opened up the fresh wounds of the passing of my wife. 


So sorry to hear about the passing of your dog.  It seems that so many things can come at us as we travel through this journey.  For all intense purposes I lost my wife at home also as I was here with her alone.  The paramedics were able to restart her heart but she never took another breath on her on.  She was put on life support and by the next morning with all the doctors could do for her, her heart stopped for a second time while on life support and I told them to stop treatment.  What has been so hard for me is that I fully believed we were on a road to recovery only to see it all crash on me in a period of 30 seconds.  There was no time to say good bye.  We had no time to make any plans.  So fortunate for her, in her last few days, she took the opportunity to make everything right between her and God and I know this morning she is healthy and enjoying the great treasures of Heaven.  While that is great and I so look forward to reuniting with her some glad day, that in no way lessens the sorry that I feel today.


Hi, all. My name is Kristen, and I lost my husband, Paul, on July 6th, 2016, after an 18 month battle with a rare form of lymphoma. Our daughters were 6 and almost 8 years old at the time. Since then, the girls and I moved from Colorado back to my hometown in Michigan. I'm lucky to have very supportive friends and family, but there are times when it would be nice to "talk" to someone who understands what it's like to be a widow. I'm looking forward to getting to know this community a little better. Cheers.

Hello Kristen,

Very sorry for your loss. I have a supportive family also, but widowhood has its only specific challenges that others who have not gone through it just don't understand. Where is Michigan do you live? I was born in Detroit, but grew up in Commerce. I did live in the UP for 4 years while my husband was a student at Michigan Tech. I may end up back there some day.


You have found the right group.  Everyone here knows exactly what you are going through.  I lost my wife, Sandra this January 20th.  While I am not fortunate as you to have personal friends and family support, I have found that those who have experienced this can assist greatly.  I found that friends and family that had not been through this could not understand the slow process that this puts us through and many fell by the wayside.  If you need to talk and say what is on your mind, I will always be available to listen.


Hi Kristen - I lost my husband June 23,2016 and I also have 2 small children, altho mine were 8 & 10 at the time.  I also have very supportive friends and family, but I know what you mean about chatting with those who actually know what it's like.  I have now passed the 1 year mark and I find I don't cry as often as I did, but it still hurts deeply.  I find things with the girls are so very, very hard.  Like when they get an award at school, or something like that.  It hurts that Dad's not there and I still have the impulse to text him about fun things that happen day to day.

Does anyone know of family grief camps .. 


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