Aloha Ryan, sorry you are here as well but glad you found this community. We all were when we did after our loss. We are the only ones that really understand what we are going through. The chat room is a very useful place to connect with a lot of Support. Use it when you can. There are very many great people in there. See you there sometime.
Ryan, I am so sorry for your recent loss. You have come to the best place to share your thoughts and grief. I hope that you feel free to share and grieve with us. As we are all at different stages of our losses, we have much to share.
Peace and hugs to you.
Rabee, Ryan and everyone with recent loss. Hi Damianino.
I do not post much anymore but I still remember the distinct pain. This year, this month May 20 would have been our 40 year anniversary. We were married 33 years, three months, 26 days, twelve hours and 44 minutes. He was 57 and died from cancer in 2011.. My life is not the same but I have learnt to push myself along. My daughter is forever changed and is dragging herself along too. My son is better. My wish for everyone on this site is to find peace and courage. Sometimes I feel great and proud of myself and other times not so much. Please remember to be kind to yourself and do not expect that you will recover at the same speed as other people. It is a very complicated experience.
Peace be with u.
It's been almost 4 months for me, today I woke up feeling great and it has stayed with me throughout a very tough shift at work. Most days I ride a rollercoaster of emotions, but not today.
Take YOUR time Raebee, because it is your time.
Here's hoping I finish the week on a good note and can enjoy Mother's Day. And the same hope for all of our Mother's out there.
I feel the same way. It has been ten months for me and some days are good and some days are really bad. My heart has been heavy for 10 months. Only god can help us through this. I pray that god gives us peace.
I gained the title of "widow" on January 2, 2018, when my Prince Charming was killed in a work accident at a grain elevator. We had only begun our Happily Ever After, having just gotten married on September 8, 2017. We're 32 - his birthday is 2 weeks before mine. Our wedding day is exactly between our two birthdays. And it's mathematical (9 + 8 = 17). We were in the same math class my freshman year of high school, so the importance of that date isn't coincidental.
Marcus was my first boyfriend in high school. My first kiss. My first love. I moved away and broke up with him because of the distance. We were 16. Through the power of the internet, we sporadically kept in touch through our 20's. We fought and vanquished many demons during our time apart. He messaged me in the fall after we turned 30 and we soon started dating. At that point, we were invincible. We built each other up in ways that the people in our lives have been amazed by.
Then tragedy struck. I will never forget that day; though so much of it is a blur, it's also crystal clear. It plays in slow motion in my head when I let my thoughts wander there.
Outside of my widowhood, I am a mom of two beautiful kids from my first marriage. They keep me going. I also love to crochet. I'm reading again, and writing. I am an avid animal lover and have too many pets :) I have a very strong relationship with God and Jesus and it is through Him that I've made it this far.
I am so thankful to have found Widville! I am the only young widow I know in my community, so I'm thankful to be able to reach out to others online. I feel so isolated at times. Through this tragedy, I've also lost my best friend, as she apparently couldn't handle the pressure of supporting me in my time of need, though I was expected to drop everything to come to her aide whenever anything befell her.
So sorry for your loss. I, too, was married to my HS sweetheart and lost him suddenly to an accident also. It has been just over 15 months for me, and I miss him every day. We were married 30 years, but I still feel young at 51. It is up and down - good days and bad. Stay strong and seek out support such as these sites, but there is a wealth of information and friends who "get it." Practice self-care - move on from those people who can aid you right now. You really don't need to deal with that. Focus on yourself. God bless you.
Hi, my name is Leonie. My husband, Ryan, passed away in January. We were on vacation in Mexico and he drowned while out kayaking. 10 weeks earlier we had welcomed our 2nd daughter. In the past months we moved to Michigan from California to be closer to family and I started a new job. It is hard meeting new people all the time who never knew him. It feels that I can’t really talk about him or what happened.
Knowing there are so many of us who have experienced an awful loss, others who “get it,” somehow brings a little comfort.
Rainbow, I'm so sorry you've had to find us. I hope you'll find WV as comforting as I have.
Hi, my name is Ann and I am Scottish. Has been 6 months since my husband passed suddenly and unexpectedly last November of 2017. Nothing in life has prepared me for this pain and loss of my best friend.