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Permalink Reply by Dianne in Nevada on -
Oh my, Nata. Your loss is so very new it's understandable that you don't know what to do right now. We've all been advised to not make any major decisions/changes during the first year as things can look very different to you later on. Perhaps it would be advisable to discuss all of this with a counselor one on one? I can certainly understand how your in-laws feel but you'll need to decide what is best for you and your son in the long term. I hope you have some good friends you can lean on - and that you'll come back here for support, too. There are many here facing similar questions.
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Permalink Reply by Robinak on -
Hi Nata, It's sad you have to be here, but glad you found us under the circumstances. The first thing I wanted to do was also leave. I was told to wait a year before any major decisions. I had to make some decisions, co course, but the major ones such as a move, no. Thought I would have to, but, i managed on working through that first year. No, it isn't easy, but it can be done.
I have now decided to move, although torn about it, but it's time. At least I've been able to give it some decent thought.
I can see where you would be terribly homesick right now. I hope ou have some support and will be able to get some support and help that you need.
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Permalink Reply by Nata on -
thank you Truly, I am glad I found this website/ I wish I didn't have to/ and people who understand me. I have good support from friends, work and in-laws, but it is not the same
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Permalink Reply by CrazyWidow on -
Nata, what a traumatizing experience that must have been. People told me never to rush into anything the first year especially a move. I recommend the same. You want to flee, go to something familiar. Just sit still and wait out those feelings until you're more clear minded, of course, 2.5 years later I'm still not clear minded (just a suggestion, do what you feel is best)! Hugs to you as you make these difficult decisions.
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Permalink Reply by Chris_NC on -
I found this on Facebook and thought I would share it....
It was too much to copy & paste.
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Permalink Reply by lorioc42 on -
Hi Stuart. I'm so sorry for your loss at such a young age and am sending {{{HUGS}}} to you. Remember to give yourself time. Don't make any major decisions right now. I am over a year now and don't remember much of what happened the first 6 months! I can't imagine having to make an identification, I can imagine how it "messed you up". We are here to support you, to talk when you need us to, to listen when you just need to talk. This journey is going to take time. Be gentle with yourself. I hope you have a family support system though. It's very important for you to be able to talk about your wife AND your loss. Feel free to add me as a friend and to email me if you need to. I will be praying for you!
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Permalink Reply by kwest46360 on
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Hi, my name is Tiffany. I just lost my husband Jay 6/21/11. We'd have celebrated our 13th anniversary this Sept. It was sudden and unexpected. He was only 31 years old. He was rushed by ambulance from school to a local hospital complaining of chest, leg, and lower back pain. By the time I was notified all they had done was given him an IV drip and left him in a room alone crying in pain..An hour later they finally decided to run tests and came to the conclusion that he had high blood sugar from undiagnosed diabetes. They wanted to keep him but, he wouldn't stay. Even though I begged and pleaded for him to stay... An hour later I got him to go to the hospital in our town. They were finally able to ease his pain and were running tests to find out if anything else was the cause..He'd agreed to be admitted and had sent me to pick up a few of his things. The hospital had decided to take him for a chest xray before taking him to his room. My husband passed before they could even begin the xray with in ten minutes of my leaving the hospital..I got home just in time to recieve the call to come back quick. I knew before I got there. The hospital insisted on an autopsy and came to the conclusion that he passed from an aortic dissection that led to an aortic rupture. I am wise enough to know that I can't heal on my own but, that I need to for our children's and my own sake. I'm hoping to meet people here that understand and can help me wrap my mind around what's happened and hopefully come to terms with the new life we have ahead of us.
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Permalink Reply by Dianne in Nevada on
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Enjoyed our chat tonight, Tiffany. So pleased you jumped in and gave the chat room a try. Come back when you return from Cedar Point and let me know how the trip turned out.
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Permalink Reply by CrazyWidow on
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So unexpected, my heart aches for you. I'm glad you found us here so soon. Hugs.
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Permalink Reply by Kristina on -
Tiffany,
I am so sorry for your loss. Your loss is so fresh- I'm glad you were able to find us so quickly, but sorry you have to be here. I've found so much support and hope you can too.
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Permalink Reply by lorioc42 on
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I am so sorry for your loss Tiffany. I know your emotional pain must be almost overwhelming. I'm also sorry you found this site, but, I'm glad you did. Even though we all are in different levels of our journeys. we've all been where you are now and we are here to help you in whatever way we can. Sending "{{{HUGS}}} to you and your children.
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