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Permalink Reply by Joyce on -
Welcome Angie to the club no one wants to join, my husband died in October of 2011 and I still can't believe how much I learn from reading all the posts and discussions. Hugs!
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Permalink Reply by Soinlove81008 on -
Hi All. My name is Tanisha. My husband passed away on January 31, 2012. He was 32, I was 29. He had been diagnosed with nasopharyngeal cancer 10 months prior. August 10th is our 4th wedding anniversary and we have a 3 year old daughter. To say my life has been turned upside down is an understatement. I am so happy to learn of this group, to know there are people out there experiencing the same feelings and emotions. Thankfully none of my friends have experienced this kind of loss but that means I am left to navigate this new journey on my own. I found out about Camp Widow West on July 2nd and immediately made plans to attend. This Friday will be very hard for me and I wasnt sure how I would handle it and I'm still not sure but at least I will be surrounded by people who get me.
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Permalink Reply by Juls on -
I am so sorry for your loss and I welcome you to this group, a group no one ever envisions being a part of...certainly not at your very young age. I am not familiar with the cancer that invaded your husband, but it seems that all cancer is capable of terrible heartbreak. Continue to visit this site and vent your frustrations and profound sadness. Spend time with your daughter, but also make time for yourself. There are tough days ahead and you will best be surrounded by people who allow you to be sad and angry. Take care of yourself (((((hugs))))) to you and your daughter.
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Permalink Reply by lorioc42 on -
I know you won't believe it now, but it gets better. My husband died June 8, 2010 - I woke up that morning and he didn't. I was numb for what I thought was the LONGEST time and then that changed, the rawness (?) set in after the fog lifted and nothing in the world could compare to what I felt then. It was a living hell like no other. I've been there. It's a roller coaster ride of emotions where one moment everything is relatively ok and the next I crawled in bed and prayed for the pain to end. I had to learn how to do many things that I had never done before. I learned, I didn't have a choice. Give yourself time - this takes time. Take baby steps and be kind to yourself. This is unlike anything you've ever gone through before and no matter what some people may tell you - there are NO rules. Come here often where people understand what you are going through - someone is always here to talk, to listen. Share what you will and know that we will be here for you. {{{HUGS}}}
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Permalink Reply by bj628(Bonnie) on -
Welcome Tanisha, I was a widow at 30 the first time, my LH had kidney disease most of his life, he had been doing well and then his kidneys began deteoriating.. He ended up on dialysis in 1978 and passed in 1979. I had a 12 year old.
I had lost my dad in January of the same year. I was working, and had my daughter, activities, etc. It dd finally get better. I re=married for 11 years and ended in Divorce. I met John... in 1991 and we married in 1996... he passed away from melanoma 6/28/2012.
I am Happy you found this group.. and I won't be going to "Camp" this year, planning for next. I know you wil be make many new and caring friends who will understand and definately support you.
hugs, Bonnie
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Permalink Reply by Hahase (Connie) on -
Hi I am Hahase aka Connie
I lost my huband on July 16th due to ALS he was 67. I am 51 and we have a 12yo son also. It was a long road getting the diagnosis and just over a year the time we had with him post diagnosis. Have been busy taking care of him and son, then the funeral stuff, now onto Social Security and all the other things that go with the loss. Seems like I have not had time to grieve. There is always something to do, my son is around, or I am just exausted and don't sleep good so I clean and go through things.
Glad i am here to get tips to know I am doing okay and have not lost it or stuffed it beyond reach. I know it is there the question is just letting go...
Nice to meet you all.
Connie
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Permalink Reply by Joyce on
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Welcome Connie, I know we always think we are going crazy or have totally lost it and maybe we have but it is nice coming here and realizing we're not the only one thinking those thoughts. Hugs, we all try to get through this together.
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Permalink Reply by stan on -
Hello. My name is Stanley. My wife passed away last year on July 16, 2011. She was just 32 years old and I was 35 at the time. My life completely turned upside down. We have five children together ranging from 10 to 2 years old. I was living in florida at the time. She had been sick for a few months but not anything that we thought would cause her to die. She woke up one morning in a lot of pain and went to the bathroom and died. She died from spontaneous bacterial peritonitis. It sucks. Life as I new ceased to exist. Now I have to live a life without her. It is really hard to do it with five children. I had to move about 4 months after to texas. Its been a long journey and extremely difficult. Hopefully I can find some friends here
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Permalink Reply by Joyce on
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Hi Stanley: Oh, I'm so sorry of your loss, that must be so hard. I know there are are a couple of men here who are or have been in similar situations, I know they will reach out to you when they can. Keep coming here and maybe join in chat sometimes. Reading all the discussions should be very helpful! Hugs.
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Permalink Reply by Jerry on
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Hello Stanley, you have come to the right place to not feel alone in grief. All the people here understand the place you are in. There is also a men's group that you can join. I find reading the posts helps me to know that my actions and feelings are somewhat normal. Stay strong for your kids.
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Permalink Reply by lorioc42 on
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I'm not very good about being on here all the time - its summer and my home is always filled with family on a daily basis. I just want to welcome those of you who have just joined and say hello to those I haven't talked with in awhile. Blessings everyone.
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Permalink Reply by going to make it on
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Thinking it's time to sell my house and start my new life. Don't know how to even begin. Just another first on this journey.
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