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I DON'T UNDERSTAND MUCH BOUT THAT.
BUT I DO KNOW THEY CHARGED LOTS AND LOTS OF MONEY FOR ALL MY HUBBYS TREATMENTS.
THANK GOD HE HAD MEDICARE AND MUTUAL OF OMAHA OR I WOULD OF BEEN BANKRUPT.
DIDN'T DO ANY GOOD, BUT LIKE I SAID HE WANTED IT.
I TOLD HIM HE DON'T HAVE TO GET ANYMORE IF HE DOESN'T WANT IT.
I agree. The research I've done has shown me this is true. :(
That is just not right. I hope they (people) who have authority to say these treatments can't be used have to answer to a higher power someday. KARMA....
I am dealing w/health issues myself and the only thing that helps is Acupuncture, which my insurance won't pay for. I need neck & back surgery and found an alternative surgery (which my insurance will NOT pay for) to the traditional surgery (which my insurance will pay for but my Rheumatologist says I will not survive). I almost died in an MRI b/c I had an allergic reaction to the contrast they used. I've already had 4 back surgeries and it takes 3 to 4 years to recover from each one.
In 2001 while having my 3rd back surgery, I told my surgeon about a new back surgery they were doing in Germany and he scoffed at me. In 2006, for my 4th back surgery, he was performing the very surgery I had told him about. Where did he get his training--Germany. Now he teaches other surgeons how to do this surgery.
There's an alternative laser surgery but my out of pocket is $15,000 here in the states. I should research other countries but I am just trying to survive right now. So I will keep paying cash for my Acupuncture treatment every week until I can figure something out.
My current problems are intestinal and besides being told it's all in my head, all the doctors want to do is prescribe pills or perform unnecessary surgeries. After two tests on my gall bladder, which showed no gall stones & was functioning perfectly, my Gastroenterologist sent me to a surgeon to have it removed. Fortunately, the surgeon said, Hell No!
My aunt just lost her husband in Feb. while she was undergoing treatment for lung cancer. She discontinued the treatment to spend every day with him. Her cancer is back and she is refusing treatment. I understand why.
Do whatever helps you.
That is so sad the ins won't cover it.
If I start havin health prob I heve NO ins at all.
Sorry to hear bout your Aunts hubby.
Hello Celestia, Welcome to WV. This is a really awesome site and there is lots of understanding and comfort here. Take care and God bless.
Hi, I'm Julie. My husband "Frank" died in May 2011 after 18 months with kidney cancer. We have four grown kids and two beautiful granddaughters. I miss him terribly everyday. I'm joining a grief group for the first time in March. But I believe that I'm surviving each day better than I was 3 months ago. So I'm beginning to believe the folks who say that it will get a little easier with time. I was already so terrorized and sleep deprived and sad and lonely for the year before Frank died - then the first 3 months were zone out numbness and disbelief. The next 3 months were darkest when reality was beginning to settle in. The last 3 have only been sameness - loneliness, pain, profound sadness. I hope that we can support each other in ways that other folks are not able or willing to do. The book by Joyce Carol Oates (I highly recommend it), A Widow's Story explains that the widow's only obligation for the first year is to survive. I'm almost there.
Hi Julie, That book helped me tremendously during the early part of the grieving process! Joyce Carol Oates nailed the feelings and put them into words beautifully~
I'm Jen and I'm new to Widowed Village. I lost my husband, Ruben, on October 12 of last year to cancer. He was 37 and had been fighting for 13 years. I knew our time was likely limited when I met him, but decided I was all in and went along for the ride. Best decision I ever made. He was a wonderful partner and an amazing man. I am lost without him. I put one foot in front of the next and try to engage in life as much as possible because I'm afraid of what would happen if I stopped doing that. Nearly all my thoughts revolve around how to honor him in day to day life. I don't get to escape cancer since it is kind of my professional field. I'm mostly grateful for any and all reminders of Ruben - and he is everywhere - but days like today I get overwhelmed by the glaringly obvious fact that he isn't here and won't be coming back. I just want him by my side - nothing else really matters. So - there is my very fragmented self introduction. Oh - and I'm 34 and live in Austin, TX and I'm not sure what else to say other than that I'm really glad a place like this exists. Being a young widow is incredibly isolating.
Welcome Jen, I'm so sorry for your loss, and I understand everything you said all to well. I lost my husband to cancer also and I feel like a ball just bouncing around the not knowing where to go or what to do. My husband was my rock, he kept me grounded and focused. Now I feel like I'm just wasting time and space here on earth. It's just so hard to move forward when your not sure what way forward is. I'm sure you will find comfort and understanding here. It really does help to talk with others that share the same feelings. I'm sorry for the reason your here but glad you found us.
Sorry for your loss.
My hubby also died from cancer.
He only had it for 9 months so I'm glad he didn't suffer long.
But like you I miss him TERRIBLY.:-(