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My blood pressure went up and I had body aches for about 6 months. My doctor said it was just physical manifestation of grief and it should subside and it did. My bp is back to normal for me, and the body aches quite after about 4 months.
I read a book and it talked about a lot of illnesses and even told you the most common ones that seem to go along with grief. In part do to stress and the fact that while we are grieving we just don't take very good care of ourselves. We don't get the proper sleep, we don't eat right, or get much exercise. Grief is very hard on the body, mind and soul, it's hard work and most of the time we take are selves to the point of being exhausted. It will get better.
About 4 months after our only son died, I got incredibly sick for 6 weeks with upper and lower bronchial problems that the doctor couldn't treat. I actually pulled chest muscles from coughing so hard and couldn't sleep because I couldn't breathe.
Anyway, the point of all that info is that after my husband died a year ago, I know to get TONS of sleep, walk daily if possible, don't work too hard or put too many demands on myself, eat healthy foods, and most important, say 'No' to things so I don't over-commit and wear myself out like I did trying to carry on a 'normal' load after our son passed away. While I've had heart palpitations for a brief time and periodic migraines, I haven't gotten horribly sick.
Hope both you and your daughter can get plenty of needed rest and recovery. Hugs.
I still have no voice, it's been that way for about three weeks now. One ambulance ride, two trips to the ER, and two trips to the doctor, two rounds of steroids and two rounds of antibiotics later I am feeling like I can breathe again. The Paramedics said EKG showed heart attack, ER said they wanted to keep me. I said, I don't care if I die, just didn't want to freak out my daughter by finding me. I never get sick.
Funny how you mention exercise. About two days before I got sick I joined a gym and hired a personal trainer. Still haven't got the OK from Dr. to go and use it! LOL
There has been a lot of sickness in our area. A lot. But it did seem those of us who had been grieving were staying sick while people at work and church were not so much. My wife died back in Sept, but since that time my son has had pink eye (twice), stomach virus, RSV. I've had strep, stomach virus, kidney stones, and back gone out. My mother-in-law was hospitalized for a bad case of flu. My dad almost hospitalized for the same. Both of nieces were bad sick with flu and strep. A lot of that goes back to Samuels daycare but when you're down, when your really mourning a loss, it wears on your body and makes it harder to fight off whatever sickness may come along. Your headaches are most likely from the stress of dealing with everything.
Ashleigh I know this post is old but I saw it on your page and wanted to comment. I'm stunned reading this because since my husband passed away in January we've all been sick many times. I have had the worst migraine of my life for two weeks now, subsiding for short bursts of time but coming back with a vengeance then. My daughter has had 5 or 6 bouts of flu or bad head colds and I am having sinus issues for the first time in my life. Perhaps it's our bodies reacting to the grief.
Hi Ash, this seems to be quite a common theme amongst those grieving. I've had migraines, headaches, earaches, headcolds, general aches and pains and it's only 3 months. So I'm focusing on looking after my body and doing the hard yards with the grief process - eating healthy, drinking plenty of water, walking, taking mutivitamins. The GP told me that's about all I can do for the time-being. My physical health is reflecting my grief. The mind can take quite a toll on the body.
I wish you and your family health...and healing, Chez