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I don't like most Saturday nights.. Nothing on TV and not much to do by myself. I'm not a go out to wherever by myself. When my husband was alive Saturday night was movie night, We used to rent movies. I just can't get into that mode again. I don't know what movies to rent, and there's not much else going on. The few weekend nights I do have plans are great, the ones without are not. So as you can guess, this weekend I have no plans... Anyone else have the same issues as me. Any suggestions? I'm still getting to know people in town since i did move 2 years ago to be closer to family but they also have their own lives.
You and me both. Evenings and weekends are the worst. I stay home on most nights. I don't like to drive at night (bad vision and scared). It's me and the 3 doggies but they sleep their time away. I try and save up my DVR recordings from the week and catch up. I have a baby blanket to crochet but my hearts not in it. Actually I have all kinds of stuff I could do around here but I just don't feel like it. I'm teetering on depression but I won't fully let myself go there. Good luck to us both:)
Yes, indeed...Saturday nights SUCK!!!!!!!!!!
Ditto!!! I hate weekend evenings period. Actually for the last 2 years Friday nights have always been the worst for me. Always before looked forward to family night- Pizza , movie nothing really exciting but just being home with my husband at the end of a long work week was the best feeling. Have hated leaving work and everyone talking about what they were doing that weekend and I knew nothing was waiting for me but my dog and cats. Well it's gotten easier but I can still feel the lonliness. Hope we all find better evenings ahead- Blessings
Oh I agree Mimi, I hate Friday and Saturday nites. The only reason I look forward to weekends is so I don't have to pretend that I'm doing okay, like I do at work.
Well, just about everyday SuCKS!!! during the week i am busier with work or babysitting. I also attend two bereavement groups a week, so made it a priority to make friends with some of the women i met there and try to get together for movies and dinner. but the best way to pass the lonely time is to come right here and chat with my WV friends. I never feel alone, and these special people are always around.
I have a full time job (I inherited my dear husband's company) and have 5 year old twins... I'm also training for a marathon to run on 12/2... I never thought I could love Monday through Friday... Up to 4 PM. And thyen I HATE IT. Evenings and weekends are the worst, but during the week I'm so tired I could fall sleep standing up. We used to do so many things together with my husband... Evenings and weekends are a reminder of the loss. He passed away on 2/18/12 after battling 3 1/2 years of Stage IV colon cancer... I lost a part of myself. I miss him so very much. I'm happy I found this group. Thank you every body for sharing your own experiences. We all come from different places but we all sound alike... Anybody out there from Souht Florida?
Same here. I'm busy during the week but weekends are hard. Every Friday night we would meet for a drink down on the beach and watch the sunset. Then we would go to dinner or just buy a pizza and head home to watch a movie. Not really exciting but our happy routine if life didn't get in the way of it. We always enjoyed each others company more than anyone else's. In fact, we would go to a party and hang out with each other for the most part, not because we were shy but because we made each other laugh the most:) Now I often go out with my new friends, other widows who I've met through Camp Widow or my grief therapy group, but it's just not close to being the same. I have fun but I miss him the entire time and wish I could just hang out with him. I'm keeping busy but it's just busy work. I still have such a huge hole in my heart.
Hate the whole weekend down time. Too much time to think and remember. I try to get up and not sleep in because I feel worse lying around in bed. Still don't have much energy or heart to get a lot of things accomplished. Trying to get one chore done a weekend - if I do more - yippee!! I used to love the weekends with my husband and kids. Now its just me at home with my bird, cats, and dog. Anxiety and depression are so part of our grieving... Its nice to have each other to send messages to.
With me, Sundays are the worse.....then again so are most evenings. I'm busy during the week babysitting my grandchildren, which I love doing...but the nights seem so long. I'm actually thinking of getting a part-time job at night...but who's going to hire a 58 year old woman:(((
I feel the same way! I live with my 2 daughters and they have their own lives to live. Me I feel like I'm in a vegitative state. I miss my hubby's company! Night time was ours to sit and talk, go out to dinner and a movie, or watch a game on TV. I miss being a couple... Our friends that we used to go out with no longer call me after my hubby died... Wow! some friends huh? No wonder we get depressed and lonely... :/