I used to dabble with writing speculative short stories. Since Dec 12, I have not been able to muster any interest in doing that again and I used to love it. I had been with an online writing group and was very active until life veered off course. I tried returning to the site but have not been able to participate.
Very typical to have lost desire or ability to attend to or enjoy those things that made us the happiest before our spouses died! Be it music, reading, writing, sports, cooking, art etc. It takes time and you have to wait until some healing takes place. Be patient with yourself. One day you will find you can do it again. Hard to schedule this...Nature will let you know when you are ready...could be months or longer...don't be alarmed it's normal when we are devastated by grief.
I have a small e commerce business, I design cake toppers and have my designs produced into wedding cake toppers. When my husband passed away last year..I haven't been able to come up with one new design. Not one.
I'm blank, no new ideas or desire to try. I think it's normal to be "blank" with creativity when going through grieving. It's just a really really hard time.
Thanks, Laurajay and Lisa. Guess, I'll just have to ride this one out. I'm always awake in the middle of the night and I think, I should try writing, but nothing happens. There's this blur inside my head. I make a cup of tea, turn the tv off (although that is usually on), and watch a program without paying attention, always realizing I've missed the vital parts of a whodunnit movie.
Yes, it's a process, this damned grief.
Please be patient with yourself, since you're less than a month into this experience. [At this point, I was barely able to watch 10 minutes of TV or a DVD, and reading a book was pretty much impossible.] That you can't muster any interest to do much right now is normal, but eventually you'll get back to doing some of the things you did previously--I just can't tell you how soon that will be. In the meantime, keep up with your writing whenever you feel the urge, and then look back in on the writing group when you feel the time is right. Hugs to you too.
Yes, John, makes sense. I do forget it's only been less than a month. The desire to heal is there but I guess grief has its own timetable.