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I was blessed a couple weeks ago. My Brother makes sure I get out of the house on a regular basis. I went to watch him sing Karaoke. I happened to be video taping him when he got this HUGE grin on his face and pointed into the crowd. Well turns out he found his soul mate and I got it on tape. Reminds me of the night Steve and I met. We felt as though we had finally found an old friend that we hadn't seen in years.
My question...will it come around again? Or was that my one shot at soul mate and only one per customer, thank you very much, please move along? I AM SO SAD....
thats a thoughtful Brother you have there! and what a gift he gave you to invite you into his happy discovery. Cheers and hugs all around. Thanks for sharing this--made my morning! You kow who knows what is in store for us? I think there are plenty of other soul mates out there, as there are many facets to our personality, we never know where they might find us, or we them! Good luck to you, on your travels.
I'm not to sure about anything anymore but I do know the human heart is capable of loving an endless amount of people. But none of them exactly the same. I don't know if I will ever love or even date another man, but I do know my husband was my one and only soul mate. I fell in love with him at age 14 I was young and foolish, I let him go and married someone else. I was married 12 years and had 3 children but never got over my soul mate. I divorced my first husband do to mental abuse. Living 2 states from each other my first love and I found each other again and within a year got married. He still had my heart ( always did) He passed away 3 months before our 14th Anniversary. I am his mind, body and soul, Then...Now...Always
I think that's why I am so sad. Steve was my other half. I still do stupid things like walk out of stores leaving my keys, wallet, and hell even my purchases inside. I'm half a person with half a brain. I had my shot and now it's gone forever. It was so brief, almost twelve years...a blink of an eye.
Someone posted a statement on here recently that really resonated with me: "I still believe the love of the 'rest of my life' is out there."
I figure that Andy was my love for the first part of my life. I thought we would grow old together in the nursing home, but that wasn't to be. I don't know if I'm ready to date yet or not (I'm 15 months out). But when I am, I sure hope to find the love for the rest of my life. I think we're meant to travel through this life in pairs, not alone. I wish Andy was still my earthly other-half, but unfortunately, he's gone. I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone and I don't think he would want me to either. Even his mother wants to see me move forward with a new partner when I'm ready. At 81, she recently lost her husband, too (Andy's dad). Her mother (Andy's grandmother) was widowed at 72 and spent another 22 years here alone. My MIL has said that at 52, I could have a lot of lonely years ahead of me if I don't find someone else. I agree! I don't want a clone of Andy. He was a really good man, but I had the best Andy. I don't want a replacement for him. I want to eventually find a new love, not a new Andy.
you are so brave
you write this so well that is how i feel too i cant replace my husband but i can add someone to the next part of my life...i spent 35 years with him i dont want to spend the next 35 years alone
bogie, wow, I really loved your reply, and I REALLY like that term "the love of the rest of my life." Beautiful!!!
agree well said!
This is such a good question...one that I think all of us who have loved well and lost through death our soul mate contemplate. When people first mentioned opening my heart up to the possibility of loving again...I balked majorly. I told them, "I have had the one true love of my life...anyone else would pale in comparison."
I had been with my husband since my teens...he was the only person I ever seriously dated...I was married to him for almost 30 years. I have no memory in my adult life that does not include him. It seems impossible to me that I could love again.
I told God that if he wanted me to marry again...He would have to drop the perfect man on my head. However, I do need to be careful what I tell God. One year I asked him to slow my life down and within a week I had broken my leg in four places and was in a wheel chair for 2 months. Yes, God does have a sense of humor! And God has a plan for my life.
I don't know what God's plan is for my life or if it includes a new mate for me. I am still relatively young. My children are adults. I am lonely and I feel myself slowly shriveling up. But dating...that's something that scares the beejeebies out of me. My single friends tell horror stories. My heart just can't handle it.
So, I'm looking toward the sky...waiting to see if God is going to drop a good man on my head. I'll keep you posted on any aerial events...
Cyna, I told someone recently that I would have to have the right man drop into my lap. It's the only way I'm going to find another love. I was with Andy from the age of 20. We were married almost 30 years. I can't imagine myself with anyone else, but I also can't imagine spending the rest of my life alone. I'm "only" 52. I could be here for a long, lonely time. But, yes, be careful what you wish for. God does have a sense of humor!
I believe my Kevin is/was my soulmate. I have not ever loved any other person the way I love/loved my Kevin. From the day we met we had such a connection…it was great! A few weeks after we met we decided to just date each other…since then I don’t think we had spent more than (7) days apart. My Kevin had the qualities I was looking for in the type of man I wanted to spend my life with, there was no need to keep searching. In some ways, I wish we had met when we were younger so we had more time to be together… of course the flipside of that is , we may not have had the relationship we had for the short time we were together (5 years)…I don’t know. My Kevin was 37 when he passed and I am 39 now.
So regarding your question, “ Is it only one per customer?” I believe yes, Kevin will always be my one true love and soulmate...MLA~KB.