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If yes, are people bugging you about it, and if not, when did you change it?
Needless to say, only 3 months down the road for me and mine is showing "married". I really don't want to change it anytime soon because I still DO feel married and I am sure I will for a while. Yet, both my mom and sister mentioned it to me the other day. Really? I know they mean well, but I don't think its appropriate. His facebook page is my only visible link to him...
My Facebook page shows Widowed, I changed it January 18th of this year, the one-year anniversary. That felt right for me.
I also changed mine around the 1 year mark, but then I couldn't deal with it and made that status so that only I could see it.
We also had a combined email address, that I only just changed, going on 17 mo. I used the excuse of too much spam to explain to his family, but I just really felt that it needed to be done. It hurt to look at everytime I logged on.
At 3 months I very much still felt married. Hell, after 20 months I still feel married to him on many levels and my FB still shows married. One day not too long ago I went to change it to widowed, but couldn't do it. That being said, I have two pages....one is set up for work associates who want to be FB friends and the other is my personal page. The one for work associates I may change to widowed just to see how it feels. Change it when you feel comfortable changing it.
I believe I changed my status to widowed around the six month mark. It coincided with the removal of my rings. I don't remember anything in particular that led me to do that. It just felt right in my journey to do so.
My year mark will be may 14th and mine still is and will be married. I don't feel any less married now then I did before so I'm going to leave it until it feels right to me. Plus I have heard a lot of people say that when you change it over to widowed men hit on you more because they think you have money or something. Even Michele said she had gotten some real creeps want to be her friends. No one has told me I should change it ,but if they do I'm just going to tell them when they become a widow they can do it their way. This is my journey and I'll do it my way!
Funny yesterday was the first time I called myself a widow and I did it on FB but it wasn't on my status. My status will most likely ,stay married for a long......long......time'
I know that some people abhor the term 'widow,' but I've always found it to be closely tied to 'wife,' so I've never had a problem with the word. I still consider myself to be "Don's wife," but for people who are uncomfortable with that I am OK with calling myself "Don's widow." Both are connected to Don, and that's how I see myself for eternity... happily bound to Don!
I changed mine to widowed about the 6 month mark and also blocked the status so no-one could see. Really it's none of anyone else's business. No-one commented about it though. It hurt to see married as he isn't here anymore but it also hurts to see widowed. Can't win really. But widowed was just more truthful to me even though my heart is still his.
I'm at six months and my page still shows married. It also says married to with the link to his page. No one has said anything and I don't know when I plan to change it. I also don't know what I'm going to do with his page. I sometimes still post to his page.