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Here's a spot where you can post your special July remembrances - wedding anniversaries, birthdays, anniversaries of your loss, children's weddings, etc. - and discuss the plans you have to get through those potentially hard days.

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July is hard! The 2nd would have been our 23rd anniversary, the 4th is his birthday and he would have been 66. The 11th is my father's birthday, gone now for 8 years and my mother's birthday is on the 17, gone for just over a year.

The reverse side of the coin is that these were all happy times and I can hold onto the memories and there will be plenty of sharing with family.

Hugs to all.

Thank you for posting this, Dianne!

july is Wayne's and my wedding anniversary! We had 34 years together! 

My husband and I first met on the 4th of July weekend in 1989, 29 years ago, and for that reason this holiday has always had a certain significance for me.  It's been 3 years since his death, and I don't do the fireworks and all that stuff we used to do. It's just too darn hot and humid now that I live in the south.

The week of July 4th was really hard for me.  It was the week we always took our "big" vaycay for the year and came out west for a week.  The shop was closed and everyone was off.  I was alone out here on our "compound" for lack of a better word.  After three days it started getting to me...

July 30th is Jerry's birthday.  I normally got him an experience gift.  Since he had everything he wanted.  This year was going to be Exotic Car driving or some sort of drift package whatever that is.  He was so excited about it.  I loved seeing the smile on his face afterward... I was looking forward to that!

wednesday, the 25, would have been my 43rd anniversary. we didn't celebrate in big ways; we knew we loved each other. but, on our 35th anniversary we renewed our vows. friends and family at my daughter's house. it was casual and the theme was "Hippie". everyone came in tie dye, or denim, or flowy dresses and beads and flowers. my 4 kids each did a handfasting with a "rope" of their choice and said a few words. my son's was the best; it was RedTwizzlers/Red Vines. we had music from the seventies, burgers, a daisy cake made my oldest daughter. we didn't have a reception when we got married, so there was no first dance, so we danced at the renewal to our song You're Still the One by Shania Twain. it was by far the best anniversary we ever had.

Today, 27th July would have been our 50th wedding anniversary. I haven't been able to focus all day. So long ago and so many memories good and bad to think about. Sometimes I just want time to stop and wait for me to catch up.

The 4th of July was our wedding anniversary ...

The kids wanted to hear all about our wedding as we watched the fireworks around the city from our hillside home. They still giggle when I tell them their Dad chose the date from of the song by .38 Special "Rockin' into the Night" along w/Gregg Allman's "I'm no Angel" and "Cherry Bomb" by John Mellencamp ... 

"Cruising down the motorway
Got my girl by my side
We're both a little anxious
Ooo, we got love on our mind
Waiting, anticipating
For the fireworks in the night
Well I swear we were doing eighty
When we saw those motel lights

And we were rockin' into the night" 
Love was in the backseat of the car out in the mesa ...
Ah, the special memories ...  :-)

I despise the month of July now.  It marks the beginning of the hardest parts of the year for us.  July 15th was the 1 year anniversary of his passing.  August the kids start school then it is either a birthday, anniversary, or holiday every month until February.  I wish I had a fast forward button so I could just skip the next 7 months.


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