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Our 39th. Anniversary is June 10th ! ( Is it still my anniversary since I'm the only one here ? )


My anniversary is April 5th.  It will always be my anniversary.  Yes, it s your anniversary.  We still remember our special days although our loved one is no longer here.  Your wedding pictures are beautiful.

Hi Princess Warrior Widow,

   Thank You for the compliment on pictures. We were married on June 10th in 1978... The second picture was taken at our sons wedding last year.



Just celebrated another birthday without him - I was 70 on Sunday.  No party as I only have a daughter and her family close by and she and her family took me out to lunch on both Saturday and Sunday.  The two boys and their families live a long way away and I hope to celebrate with them if they come home at the same time, it wouldn't have been a party without them.  Life is so different since Ray died four and a half years ago.

Happy birthday only1sue.  That's nice that your family took you to lunch to celebrate.

Happy Birthday.  Glad you have your daughter close by.  Mine is too.

June 12 is quickly approaching and I am so anxious. It will be one year since I lost the love of my life in an accident so unexpectedly. Some days I feel so much like I am going backwards rather than forward.Why am I so anxious about it? I cannot believe it is already one year. I'm so afraid I wont be able to handle the day. So many raw memories are being stirred up. Any advise on how to get through it? 

Hi Terri,

   My 39th anniversary is tomorrow. Brain Cancer took my husband in Dec. of 2016.  I have no idea what I'll do tomorrow, besides go to work. How do you

celebrate an anniversary alone ? 

   I hope you get through it without any tears.



Terri, Today is the 3rd death-iversary for me.  I felt worse in the anticipation the past few days than I did today, so far, but I made it past the time when he died by playing a song he liked on my piano.  I believe his spirit exists and can be present with me.

Plan to do something with no stress if you can. I did a lot of gardening today and am watching educational TV and drinking a glass of wine now.  

But the first year it is still so raw.  Allow yourself to grieve and cry.  Talk to anyone who will sympathize.  That is not always easy bc so many people think you are over it or should be, bc they are, or don't want to think about it.  My bro-in law sent me gifts for the past 2 years.  I emailed him last week and told him not to, I would rather talk to him on the phone.  Haven't heard anything so far.  His sister sent me a card. 

 I got through it the first couple years by writing, letters to him, my own thoughts and feelings, drawing and painting.  Processing the memories is painful but necessary, so that you can let them go and move on.  Find a way to express them if you can.  I'm sorry you are going through this and wish you healing and comfort.

Hello I am new to this site (forum).  My husband passed away May 8, 2016 he was only 38 and this Sunday June 11th is his 41st bday.  I am habing such a harder time the second year around.  Anyone else feel this way.  

Dear RMH,

Absolutely. (((((Hugs))))) The second year is often the hardest. We come out of the first year "fog" and the 2nd year brings the realization that they are not coming back. I'm so sorry for your loss...
Thank you Diane! You ar right reality had hit me hard I'm hoping as the days go on they get a little easier..


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