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My husband was cremated and I am doing a bit of research into memorial jewellery. There are lots of options of items of jewellery that you can either store a tiny amount of the ashes inside, or even ones where they make a piece of glass with the ashes swirled inside. I was wondering if others have done something similar and do you wear it all the time, or sometimes? How do you feel about the piece? Do you have any advice for me?

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My late wife had a bit of her grandfather put into a worry stone.  She really liked it.  She would carry it when she needed some extra strength.  She also had it strung with a clasp and wore it on our wedding day.  If it something your thinking about I would go for it.  It can only provide comfort having something tangible for you.  

My DH was also cremated. When he passed I saved a bit of his hair. I got a glass "perfume bottle" necklace from Ebay and put the hair in it (not visible). I did not save any of his ashes.

I also have a lock of my husband’s hair. Like you, I bought an antique glass jar with a silver top and out the hair inside. It sits on my bed table 

We've had Forum discussions on this topic over the years.  Here's a link you may want to take a look at (it also includes memorial tattoos):

http://widowedvillage.org/forum/topics/tattoos-memorial-jewelry-and

When I stopped wearing my wedding ring, I had mine and his made into a necklace with the rings interlocking, and sort of like and infinity symbol.  I lost it while traveling once and it wasn't until I got home and saw in the mirror it was no longer around my neck.  I was so upset.  I emailed the lost and found at the airlines, the airports, the rental car company and I called the hotel.. Nothing.  Then I had some of his ashes made into an Ash Bead.  I wear it whenever I'm not home.  I make sure it's securely fastened, too!

My husband died this past February. During his illness, when he had lost the ability to move, he would always say “take me with you in spirit wherever you go”.I have had a small silver pendant made with a pinch of  his ashes sealed inside. I designed it with the help of a local jeweller. It was not the cheapest option, but it meant so much to me to have exactly what I wanted. The jeweller took photos of the ashes being placed inside before soldering. It calms me to wear it. I don’t always wear it - just when I go to special places.

I love this!! ((((HUGS)))) LP.

I bought 2 eternity circle pendants for myself and my daughter that hold a tiny amount of my husand’s ashes. I wear mine special places, not all the time. But especially when I feel a greater need to have him with me...his patience, tolerance and humor about life. 

My husband died in February. It was very sudden and unexpected. He was cremated as was his wish and i found a stunning pendant at Spirit Pieces online. I have some ashes in a “caged glass pendant” wrapped in silver which is a tiny galaxy with stars and an opal moon. They have some of the lovliest things i found. 

Wow-  I checked out Spirit Pieces and I'm impressed.  The mortuary offered paperweights with the cremains swirled into a tasteful design for $485 plus tax; Ron and I had a good laugh over that when I showed him the brochure.  (He died of acute myeloid leukemia so it wasn't sudden, and he and I were pretty practical about end-of-life decisions.)   Spirit Pieces has a much bigger selection and the prices are closer to $150.  I could be tempted; I have most of Ron's ashes left and have been scattering bits of them in various places in my travels.  Six countries (including the USA) so far, with one, possibly two in September.  It depends on whether I can sneak them into the Seine in Paris when no one is looking. 

I suppose this means I greatly overpaid for the sterling silver charm with Ron's fingerprint on it, but so be it.  I guess they have to have some way to make up for the profits they lose on people who choose cremation rather than in-ground burials. 

Right after my husband had been cremated, I bought a small cremation pendant made of antler so that some of his ashes could be put in the pendant. I wore it for a long time. My husband loved nature, and he kept a few small antlers that he had come across while hiking. That’s why I was attracted to the pendant made of antler.

  I was concerned about being able to travel with the pendant internationally  because the inner lining of the pendant was made of metal.  I researched the TSA (American customs) website about acceptable containers and selected another tiny vessel  made of glass with a silver feather attached. My husband also collected feathers that he,found during his frequent hikes, which is why I decided on that cremation pendant.

But I phoned and spoke with a member of TSA  before purchasing it to verify that the pendant  would pass through the airport checks without incident. The person on the phone gave me the green light, so I bought it.   I also phoned and spoke with a member of the customs in Canada to ask them the same question to be sure that I would not have problems entering the country with it.  I also kept a copy of the email message the American customs had sent me just in case I needed it.  On a round trip between Canada and New York City last year, at the customs X ray machine checkpoints, I let the customs officers know what it was, and it  passed through customs on both ends without any problem. 

 Now I have one cremation pendant I feel comfortable wearing internationally, and one that I would only wear in my state.  The customs officials in both countries  said that cremation pendants are classified as jewelry, which is why they are accepted.  However, customs laws change all the time, so it is always a good idea to visit customs websites and/or talk with a customs official from the country of departure and the country where you will be traveling to to make sure it won’t be a problem.

 It took quite a bit of research to find a cremation pendant that reflected one of my husband‘s passions and passed muster at customs checkpoints, but it was certainly worth it.  

 The one made of antler might pass through customs, but I am not willing to risk it. If there were ever a problem, I know I would turn around and go back home. I would not surrender it at customs. 

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