Like the rest of you, I wish I never had to come to this site. I lost my wife to Multiple Myeloma at the very young age of 61. We both were in very good shape walking and exercising until cancer hit her blood stream 3 years ago. I made sure she had the best hospital and doctors that we could find. I prayed to God to heal her of her cancer but changed the prayers to asking God to take her so that she wouldn't suffer anymore. She was taking 6 morphine pills a day but still was in serious pain. At least I know she's in a better place now. I HATE CANCER
KimberlyS says
Posted on June 6, 2021 0
James, when I had first read your post, and came to the part “I HATE CANCER” I felt like shouting it out with you, but it still hurt to much for me to add my thoughts. Not today though, I am with you, cancer is such an evil, merciless murderer. It robbed me of my husband of 41 years, and watching the suffering is painful. And so is the loss. Thank you for saying what so many of us feel, and I am sorry for you loss.
ElizabethH says
Posted on May 27, 2021 0
My husband passed away 6 years ago. He had melanoma, and it was a long journey for us through his illness, and his passing. The hardest thing for me now is the loneliness. We were so happily married, and I miss having a husband. I hope that I can meet someone that has been on a similar journey. I know that no one can replace my husband, but I am hoping to find love again.
ElizabethH says
Posted on May 27, 2021 0
My husband had melanoma, and was 59 when he passed away. And yeah, cancer sucks.
xchex says
Posted on March 25, 2021 0
JamesC – I have found great comfort in believing my sweet husband is not suffering. At the end of his life, I felt he did have suffering and I would never want him to feel that pain. He wanted to stay here with me but I know he is now whole and happy. Even though the days are very, very difficult, I remind myself that he is no longer hurting and he will be my future again someday.
I hope you can find comfort in knowing your wife is in a better place, until you meet again.
VictorG says
Posted on March 22, 2021 0
James: Sorry you have to be here. Like you, my wife died of a rare form of cancer. Cholangiocarcinoma ( Bile Duct Cancer). Hers was a much shorter journey. Only 102 days from her first real problem, where I took her to the ER, to the date of her death. She endured one surgery for exploratory purposes, which the surgeon called it, but the biopsies came back inconclusive. This gave us renewed hope. After going through four other liver biopsies ( all of which came back inconclusive as well), we decided to change hospitals. At the other hospital they tried a different type of biopsy, and were able to conclusively determine the cancer type. By this time it was too late to give her chemo, or any other form of treatment. She passed away 9 days later. In her last days I also changed my prayers from those trying to heal her, to allow her to pass easily, without pain. Your journey through this grief will not be easy, but as many say, you do not get over grieving your loved one, you get through it. Never really getting over it. I am at just over 6 years, and still struggle. Especially since having said goodbye to three siblings since my wife’s passing.
Good luck, and God’s blessings to you.
DavidS says
Posted on March 21, 2021 0
Hi James,
My partner was in good shape too and she was suddenly taken by a rare cancer. The improbability of it happening and the pointless brutality of the whole thing still has me spinning in disbelief.
It sounds like you did everything right and all that you could do.
I don’t know of anything worse than watching your spouse suffer. I think that is an extra special misery that is added to the pain of the survivor.
I am sorry that you have to go through all of this.