A friend on another site used this phrase to describe a relationship that she finally ended. I think it also applies to us widows and widowers as we venture forth into the world of new relationships. How do you tell a good frog from a bad frog? Are you going to try to hang out for Miss or Mr Right as the years are flying by or are you just seeking a reasonably comfortable relationship? Is there someone special out there for all of us?
David- so right about the lingering memories. Sometimes I can drive by a place without even thinking about it and other times it's paralyzing! One of the reasons I feel like I should move, but those memories are in my head and travel with me now. They don't relocate as easily.
Well it really is a strange world. I have a male friend who i have been talking to for about 15 months on and off on Facebook, we went out a few times but nothing seemed to be coming of it. Then he went on holidays and hardly contacted me. Seems he has been desperate to contact me in the last few days to ask if I could....do his mother's funeral! I just knew all that theology would come in handy one day! Just as I was planning on backing off from that situation. What is happening here? I feel as if I am getting reeled back in all the time. But still think he is a really just a time waster.
David, this is a very strange relationship, old friends, friend of the family, his late mother was my daughter's godmother. He acts like a good friend, then suddenly I don't hear from him for a while. Then he is back on chat on Facebook for a few days, then off again. What am I to him? what does he feel about me? who knows? Occasionally we go out to lunch and have a great time, we have so much history together from our young days and we laugh at the same jokes. BUT he has been divorced three times and I think that is a barrier to us being more than friends. So if I accept this then it is just a friendship and is best I leave it at that.
Sue, If there is one thing I have learned since being on this path I did not choose, is be upfront. Ask him. What do you have to lose? Of course ask him in a way that won't mess up a friendship if that is what you want. You could just ask for clarification.
He doesn't sound like a great catch, honestly, but does sound like he could be a good friend with all of your background.
At a dinner tonight the man who I had been on one date early last year kissed me and then the widow next to me who he had apparently dated a couple of times after me. She was surprised, I wasn't. I did want to scream but all's fair in love and war I suppose.And of course he had had a bit to drink so I guess that gave him the courage. AARRGGH!
Three and a half years out now and I just want to reiterate my original question: "Is there someone special out there for all of us?"
If it's some "one" I think I've have my fair share of special in life already. But if some "two" came along, I wouldn't say no.
I don't know. I'm on my second round of online dating sites and this time I just mostly feel absolutely no interest. The guys all look a like now to me. I am pretty sure this is not the way to find a special someone.
I think I am dealing with the question of Who do I want to be? And it may not have a special someone. And I am thinking that might be ok. There's a lot of living I can do.
Just rambling here. Hugs.
I agree, I am at 1 year 2 months and really don't want to traumatize myself with a bunch of bad dates. I had something really special, and I wouldn't go again unless I thought I had met someone really special again. And since I am not at the current dating... how likely is that? Not at all likely, but against all odds I feel optimistic about the (not quite yet) future.