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I am usually a fairly gushy person and love seeing people celebrate their wedding anniversaries on Facebook etc. I guess because so many marriages end in divorce, I have always enjoyed seeing ones that were thriving. Well today on Facebook, friends are celebrating their 25th wedding anniversary, and I could not bring myself to congratulate them. We made it to 22, before Sean died and my goal was always 60 years of marriage. I figured since we got married so young we would make it to a ripe old age together. But today it was just too much. It's not fair. It made me feel like a bad friend. A disgruntled bitch. 

How do you manage these situations?

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(((Miss Em)))

No one can change how they feel when actively grieving - even putting on a brave face is strenuous when loss is ripping your soul apart ...

However, you can try holding your breath while quickly typing "congratulations", immediately press send, then allow what you feel to come out ...

The first year is very hard ...

Hi Miss Em, those type of situation are hard to face, for me I just try to shut down my feelings for about two seconds and congratulate them. It's hard anyway you look at it. My mom remarried a couple of months ago and it was hard to attend the ceremony and be happy for them in that moment. I also felt bad that I couldn't be more happy for her, but I couldn't help it. One of the hardest days since my husband died. You are not a bad friend, you just see things different and experience things different. 


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