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Now there has been many a time in which I wish I had a "cluebat" to use on someone. Things that people say and do, they sometimes deserve to have one used on them. Heck, I know in my lifetime someone should have used a cluebat on me!
Thought I'd start this thread so you could post your request to use the cluebat on someone.
Use this thread to vent your reason and we can join in passing around the "cluebat".
So, I'll start out using the "cluebat" on my friend.
I love her but when I was discussing with her my sorrow about losing my husband and missing just being married she said.
"Oh, you'll find someone again. My friend has lost two husbands and is now married to her thrid husband".
I was shocked! It's like he was a dog or pet that can be replaced so easily!
DEFINATELY CLUEBAT NEEDS TO BE PASSED HERE!!!
Oh, man, definitely. Whack, whack. I'll be gettin' that thing from you soon, no doubt. Great idea for a thread. Thanks for your humor and your understanding, Sher. Both are mightily appreciated.
Pass the Clue Bat!!!
OK, just a rant.
My birthday was June 5th.
A couple who I know who are both disabled and in wheelchairs called my that morning to wish me a "Happy Birthday, and oh by the way we are getting a divorce!"
The woman started asking me if I know of anyone who might need a roommate. Well after a while of talking with her it dawned on me she was asking me if she could rent the spare bedroom (since Dave passed away).
Now, as some of you know Dave was a wheelchair user. It was so unsettling for me. It just didn't set right for the whole day. I'm shaking my head in disbelief. That's why I would rather spend time here then "out there" right now. Thanks, just had to rant.
Sherbear, Wow...that would have thrown me for a loop. Just goes to show that people who have not been widowed just DO NOT GET IT! I am sure she probably thought that it would be so logical for you to offer her the room since it was already handicapped accessible for a wheelchair. But grief, emotion and pain are not logical at all. I am assuming that you did not wahck her with the Cluebat, but you had a good reason to do so! She is probably still clueless about your lack of enthusiasm for her idea! Sorry you had to deal with this. I guess I have been fortunate in the last 33 months because I cannot really think of any instance when I could have needed the Cluebat. I count my blessings daily. Take care!
Sherbear, I have a couple of friends that I love but they are clueless also. I understand the urge for the "cluebat." I'm glad you know where to come when you need to vent. WV has been that for me as well. Take care of yourself.
I think you've come up with a grand idea for a new product. Goodness, I've had the normal "cluebat instances",but it sounds like you've had some real gut wrenchers. I stay to myself most of the time. The few friendships I've maintained have said pretty much all of the "wrong" things and figured it out by my reaction.