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dianne we so are going to have to say at least a night longer next year!
All that we learned, felt, experienced it truly was a gift!
I'm very new here. What is the Plan A and the Plan B speech? If I'm missing a post, please point me in the right direction. I lost my husband three years ago and I could certainly use a new approach.
Hatshepsut
It was from this past weekend at Camp Widow. I believe some ladies may have recorded it. Not sure.
Welcome Hatshepsut. Yes, the speech being referenced is Michele Neff Hernandez's keynote address at Camp Widow East in Myrtle Beach last weekend. She's an amazing speaker ... every one of her keynotes that I've heard has been inspirational.
I missed most of this speech, but I believe the reference to Plan A and Plan B was basically this: Our Plan A was what we saw for our future life before we experienced our loss. We grieve the loss of what our future was supposed to hold right along with grieving the physical loss of our loved one. Plan B is what we need to come up with now that we can't have our Plan A. We can still have a full and beautiful life ... it just can't be the life we originally envisioned with our loved one. Fully realizing that is hard, but so very important. It will allow you to think of things that you used to want to do but didn't have the time to do when busy with your spouse and job and kids, etc. Recall those little things and do them. Write them down. Check them off a list. Perhaps some will no longer appeal to you. But you may find something that you feel passionate about, something that will fill those extra hours in your days, something that gives you purpose, something that provides that first step toward your Plan B.
Camp Widow West is just 9 weeks away, Hatshepsut. I see you live in California, so perhaps you'd like to join us there. That will be Michele's final Keynote address. No - she's not leaving Soaring Spirits ... she just feels it's time to change up the keynotes at future camps. Here's a link to where you'll find more information about camp: http://www.campwidow.org/
Actually, Michele said that you don't need a plan B, you can have another Plan A that will be different than your original Plan A, but every bit as wonderful. There is no reason to settle for Plan B. You need to go out and make a new Plan A that is the best and greatest life (in whatever sense) you can have - not less, just different. You do not need to settle.
Thanks much, Liz! I should have had the patience to wait for someone who actually heard Michele's speech to explain what it was for Hatshepsut - duh!
I agree that Michele's keynote, Plan A not Plan B speech was inspirational and was one of my favourite parts of the weekend. I also loved meeting everyone in person. The walk on the beach was wonderful and I agree that Kellie Lynn's presentation was hilarious.
I think the CWE banquet dance floor crasher from the wedding reception deserves a special shout out - apparently we widows know how to party!
That man was HILARIOUS! I couldn't stop laughing!
I agree! The party crasher certainly was ... ummm ... entertaining ... a rather unique dance style. I figured he heard our music and then heard it was a room full of widows and he just HAD to join us.
I wish there was a like button on comments like on FB. His dance style definitely was unique! :-)
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