I am so angry and at the same time emotionally set back. Yesterday I received a call and the caller I.D. showed it to be my husband calling from my phone. I almost picked up thinking it was my son, when I realized I didn't have my son listed the way it came up. That's when my eyes looked at the number. It was my phone calling itself. While I know this has been going on for a lot of years because my sister has been a widow for 10 years now, and she received one 2 years after her husband passed, it still created pain that these scammers don't seem to be aware of. This morning I received another and now I am beyond hurt, I am angry with no outlet for it so, here I am venting. It will be a year for me next month and I resent being used by scammers! Hopefully they will realize I do not answer calls that I do not know and will stop. The emotions are too high for these games.
Sis, I know how upsetting that can be. If you have the message recorder— I would let it go, don’t answer it. I will answer calls only if the caller identifies him or herself and leaves a message. I will pick up before they hang up or will call back if I am busy.
I don’t know why we are forced to put up with this nonsense, we pay monthly for phone service, this gets more and more out of hand. I keep thinking of having it disconnected but that’s like cutting off your nose to spite your face. I’ve been on both do not call lists but that has become useless, almost a joke.
Sorry this keeps happening to you, I don’t know if contacting your provider would help. There may be a way of blocking it. Some phones I believe, have the ability to block so maybe that could be an option though I don’t know how that would work exactly since their number is shielded with yours. Good luck. This type of thing continues with many of us— my phone rings all day. You have to wonder if scammer has become a profession for a lot of people.
God only knows what they expect to get from those calls and of course, they have virtually no idea of their impact.
Susan's family had breast cancer, and my mother died of it. Every year, no matter how many times I told them that she'd passed, I kept getting calls for Susan. "Is she there? Can I please speak to her?"
So far, this year I've heard nothing.
As part of the new way to get our attention, they now can have the phone number that shows up on our phones mimic a number that is in our area instead of a number that is the other side of the country or even outside of our country.
As has been mentioned, since Susan passed, I no longer directly answer the phone. Instead I wait. If the caller starts to leave a message and it is someone I know, then I'll pick up the phone and answer it in the middle of their message.
sis...My foolproof method of getting phone scammers to STOP calling is better explained in person on the phone but I'll give it a try here and now. You answer the call BUT you only speak one (1) word of English and that word is "Hello". After that not one more word of English do you ever say to the caller! What you do is to begin to speak in a made up nonexistent language/nonsense words. The caller will continue to say things in English but you must not speak English you continue to speak in a non language. Speak with firm voice not angry and not sweetly but firmly. No matter what they say you continue your made up language. I have used this dozens of times and never had anyone call from the same number more than once/maybe twice- It goes like this....Hello? ~ Hello is Miss Smith there? ~ hello. youga vert matta binret iggs mant?~ miss smith please. ~ hello nont pio lim vart sagga non? hello~ is miss smith there? ~ nont weggie mont un quin sada bukpol! ~ and so forth....works like a charm if you do not get angry and do not say anything they can understand besides hello. Puts you in charge they do not call back---if they do...just repeat same thing. You will laugh after they hang up. Also, it keeps you from getting hurt by their thoughtlessness- and it's a fair reply...they have no common sense calling you and you return no sense to them.
I'm sorry for you but relieved this has happened to someone else. A few weeks after my husband died I also got calls showing my husband's name as the caller. It made me feel so scared and really bothered me. I felt like I was going crazy! It happened again a few months later, and this time I picked up. There was nobody there. It makes me sick even thinking about it. It had never happened when my husband was alive. I don't know if this is a sick joke someone does or what, but it is cruel. It is so painful, and it set me back emotionally each time, just as it did you. I hope it doesn't happen to you again. I don't think people realize you're not talking about scammers calling and asking for your husband, they are making it look like your husband is calling you after he has died. It is really a horrible experience.
If your own number shows in the I.D. you still have the option picking up the phone and talking gibberish. Before caller I.D. this could not happen. I do believe once you aware this scamming is common you will be annoyed but not surprised. All sorts of tricks online and over the phone happen in today's world....unfortunately it is a sign of our times. I know I was scammed by a fake IRS call after my husband died. What the caller knew about me/us was astounding and almost believable! Questioning a return submitted by my husband I was clueless as he did the taxes. Anyway, I phoned the IRS to check about it and they told me the scams are so plentiful they have a whole department and a phone number just to deal with scams. I was reassured but what a lesson to learn. And I have an unpublished number and keep low profile. The trolls are still out there.
Hi, I too, not long after my husband's death received a phone call, Caller ID, our phone number, my husband's name on it. I picked it up (freaked out) but said "hello?" nothing but static on the line...
I've talked to other widows who had the same experience... I don't know if you believe in the afterlife... but I do, so think of it as your husband reaching out to you, from the other side.. esp. if it's just static when you answer. I've read that spirits can control electronics, which would include your phone, so if just static, think of it as positive...
However, I know there are scammers out there, and companies who have your husband's name on the phone record, and I just recently I got call asking if Robert wanted life insurance, and I said, hell yes! Can you give me life insurance after he's dead? Whoops, they hung up fast. I also got a call asking if Robert wanted a newspaper subscription, and I said, "Dead men don't read newspapers." They hung up.
Make sure you have changed your phone# to your name only (with your phone service) -- then don't pick up the phone if you don't know who is calling,
Take care, and sorry for your loss.
It sucks and yes, you don't need these games. No one does.
Dee 1960, After the initial anger, I, too, thought it may be a little acknowledgement that he is still here. I keep asking, but thus far have not felt any confirmation as I do often when I communicate with him. But, just in case I have not been able to delete those calls from my phone as I do the numerous nuisance calls I get. Thanks to caller id, I don't fall prey to them any longer.
Laurajay, Interesting idea. Right now I just don't answer if I don't know the caller, but you have planted this in my mind for those insistent callers, and I get many of them.
No words for how outrageously callous these phone callers are!! I am mad with you! Take some deep slow breaths....and know that your Soaring Spirit family is with you.