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Does anyone else suffer from severe anxiety?  I'm going on 4 years and it still affects me daily. Some days are worse than others. Antidepressants make it worse.  I have to take anti anxiety medication or I would be debilitated. My doctor has checked and tried different approaches with no success. I finally found a therapist that I hope can help.  I have my second appointment next week. If you have anxiety even after time has passed , please let me know.  It would help so much to know I'm not alone.  I don't know how much longer I can go on like this!

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I understand what you are going through. I have always been a "Spinner." I tend to overthink things but since my wife died I do it more frequently. One example is catastrophizing - if a person I care for doesn't get back to me in a certain amount of time, then they have died in a car wreck, assault, a plane flying overhead landing on their car, perhaps they overate lasagna and died of a stomach illness, they may have ebola, the world is ending, and I have lost someone else.

I am trying to inject some humor into my own neurosis because intellectually I know how ridiculous and very little control, I have over anything…but the stress of losing someone has changed me.

I am not a doctor but what helped me was therapy, support groups, exercise, volunteering, antidepressants, journaling, learning a new hobby.

Please understand I am not saying this is a cure for what you are experiencing. I am trying to convey it can get better, and I do understand.

You are not alone. 2 months in I was in Key West with my brother and his wife who is native Key Wester whose parents are buried in the old Key West City cemetery. I had a full on panic attack and blacked out. Overnight in a hospital and a $20,000 bill. I don't know which panic attack was worse. Sorry for the morbid attempt at humor, but sometimes laughing it off helps.

Lost and Lonely, you are not alone.  I suffer from practically crippling anxiety.  I am on antidepressants they are helpful.  I can't get through a day without crying hysterically without them.  I also have xanax to take prn, I normally take one at night if I absolutely have to.  I do see a therapist but she really isn't that helpful.  For the most part as long as I'm not expected to leave my house I do okay.  If I do leave for whatever reason I MUST be at home before it gets dark.  I hate being like this too.  I really don't know what else I can do....


You are not alone. My Doctor prescribed Clonazepam 0.5MG after one year,  I couldn't figure out what was wrong. I knew I wasn't depressed, just wicked anxious.  I only take it if I wake up not knowing what I'm going to do with the whole day ahead.  It worked for me.

Dear Lostandlonely:  

I also have severe anxiety since my husband died in 2015.  Driving especially is a problem.  I have gotten a service dog that I can take with me which helps with the driving, also panic attacks in public, but still have problems going out at night.  And honestly, it's so strange because I never had this problem before my husband died, in fact I had to drive (as he couldn't, was disabled) and I pretty much had to do everything --  but suddenly I, too, struggle with severe anxiety.  I have "fled" from places because of a panic attack.... This is not "me", I used to be strong and capable  -- my therapist says anxiety is a grief symptom....  

I take Xanax, helps a bit.

My dog, helps greatly.

Still sometimes I just want to hide ... you are not alone, just wanted you to know that, you are not alone.  And also, thank you, for letting me know I'm not alone either.  

Lostandlonely,

You are definitely not alone!  It's been five years since my husband died suddenly and I still have anxiety!  I wake up tired, do you?  The anxiety is horrible in the early morning and wakes me up.  I do take an anti-anxiety med at night. I also have severe intrusive thoughts of him constantly.  I can't stop...it's amazing how they pop into your mind!!

A therapist does help but I haven't scheduled another appointment yet.

Please hang in there - I'm trying to - I don't think you'll have to go on like this forever!

Did your husband die suddenly?

He was sick for three months with Congestive Heart Failure, but we didn't see it coming and we were blindsided.  Its been over a year and I am so sad most of the time. I think I should try and get a therapist, as well.  I don't want to continue taking anti anxiety medicine everyday.  

Thank you for reaching out.  It really helps to know I'm not alone in this horrible Journey.  I wish I died first.

Thank you. 

Has anyone attended the 13 week program from GriefShare.org

Yes, I joined midway through the program and I have found it extremely helpful. Having individuals to share with one on one and to get much needed support has been invaluable. There is no judgement, no fake platitudes, no hidden agenda. We all share a common desire to find a way to get beyond the despair and personal suffering. Its funny how people you have grown up with and have known all your life can seem to be totally unable to relate to what you're going through. But GriefShare has helped me to start to move beyond my grief. I am committed to completing the entire 13 week program. Best wishes to you.

I am encouraged that GriefShare has helped you! I am a cofacilitator of GriefShare in the town I live in. It has helped me to help others! I always tell participants the first night that if they continue to attend, they will be laughing and make new friends after the 13-week session.

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