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Good for you. They do have to love you. ;-) I chuckled as I read this, cause I can see this is just you being you! ;-) I think you are explaining this well and have given me good ideas of how better to do this in my own life!
I find more and more I am also starting to use the term ONLY parent too. It seems like such a better fit. Oh man the Dr appointment thing you mentioned, I think that must have been difficult. I can only imagine with three who hard that is to make arrangements for things. May people realize there are times exceptions really need to be made for any rules. I cant imagine bringing in all three kids twice. I am sure its hard enough to do that ONCE. Hang in there.. Pat-NMWidower
oh do I know how you feel...and I have 4!
The dentist thankfully takes all 4 at once, as does the eye doctor, but the pediatrician? heaven forbid he allow 4 kids in at once, even for flu shots. I hate their ped for this very reason.
I have no clue why pediatricians do this. My children's current ped will only see them separately, too. It makes no sense to me. My feeling is, if they could fit 2 kids (in my case) or 4 kids (in your case) in for appointments from different families, why not 2 (or 4) from the same family? It's not any harder to pull charts for 4 kids from the same family as it is to pull charts for kids from 4 different families. I really don't get it. Sigh. The only time I could see them not doing it is if you make an appointment for one and then say, 'oh, while we're here...' but w/ appointments made in advance for all of them... ridiculous.
Change it whenever you are ready. Only you know when that will be.
You said that you're not ready for the 'sorry for your loss' comments. Are there people among your Facebook 'friends' who do not know that your husband passed? If people already know, I would imagine that you would not get such comments. I know when I got around to changing mine nobody said a word about it. Not one word.