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I say I'm an only parent - that I'm widowed. Still not easy to say. But I'm not sure in an interview setting what I'd share.
i hate the term "Single Parent" because I have found most people use it as if it were a handicap. John's ex used to run around saying she couldn't afford things because she was a single parent. Maybe that is why I don't like it. I think alot of single parents are single parents by choice. They chose to end the marriage or they chose to have a child alone. Widows did not choose to be single parents.
Interesting subject - I am now adimant about how I reply. I tell people I am an ONLY parent - not a single parent. Then, I do a quick definition - A single is single - so still part of a "double" - whether divorced, separated, etc. An only parent is it, nada, nothing else - the ONLY one. And then if the situation fits I throw in that "I'm widowed, and it sucks." Ha, people have got to LOVE me. I do not like the implication of saying that I am "just" a single parent...because that is not the situation I am in, and that is a MUCH different situation. And I agree - in an interview, keep it vague.
Just a quick example...was making a eye dr appt and they only take 2 per family. I said I wasn't happy I would have to drag all of the kids in one more time for just one appt. since I'm an ONLY parent. She said "oh, why can't u just come in when your kids are away for a weekend visitation? WOW I said I'm an ONLY parent, not a SINGLE - he's dead, not divorced." Then I thought of saying - oh ya, i'll just drop them off at the cemetery - but decided that was a bit much. :) Now that ticked me off...poor receptionist :)