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I guess I have a reputation here of putting a positive spin on things. I'll take that. As long as you understand that doesn't mean that this has been easy for me or that I don't have any 'down' moments. That said, I'd like to offer this space for only POSITIVE thoughts ... quotes, poems, photos ... things that may help you to feel a little spark of HOPE when you most need it. 

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"... there is more to you than yesterday."

Diane, that is a lovely sentiment!

--- If only it were easy to get to ...

Thanks for sharing ...

I meant to post this in here on Valentine's Day. But I think these words are nice to hear any day.


I found Brave Girls about 18 months after my loss and they have been a lifeline. Sign up for their free Daily Truth emails. Watch some of their videos. Always uplifting.

And if you're interested in checking out their online courses in Brave Girl University, be sure to take a look at my Widowed Village profile to use the coupon code to get a 30 day free trial.

I love this video but a warning ... have a tissue nearby.  It's a good cry, really.  Watch all the way to the end.

I don't look like this gal and I'm WAY older, but I did my own little experience of checking things off the list when I went to Costa Rica in 2015.

Good one, thank you for posting!

"Somewhere between what she survived, and who she was becoming, was exactly where she was meant to be. She was starting to love the journey. And find the comfort in the quiet corners of her wildest dreams. They say people don't change ... well, she wasn't always this way. Even if she didn't change the entire world, she would change her part of it. And she would affect the people she shared it with. A butterfly who's wings have been touched, can indeed still fly. Whether something was meant to be, or meant to leave, didn't matter as much anymore. She would soak up the sun, kiss the breeze, and she would fly regardless."


Beautiful, Dianne :)

This is greatly appreciated, the 18th will be 2 months without my lover and best friend... His family did not have a funeral so I decided to have a candle light vigil for him tonight, so it's been a tough day for me and I needed a pick me up. I'm also new to this site and I'm glad to know I'm not alone.. So thank you
Aly, the candle light vigil is a beautiful way to celebrate the love of your loved one. You are not alone.

There are little kindnesses and good things that cross our paths every day but they are so easy to overlook or to forget about on the hard days. Want to join me in starting a Good Things Jar this year?  Just pick any jar/vase/basket/fish bowl and place it in a spot that you'll see every day. Have little slips of paper and a pen next to your jar so you can easily write down the good things you want to remember. And don't forget to add the date!

The original idea behind Kindness or Gratitude or Happiness or Good Things jars was to start the year off by recording something good about every day and placing it in your jar and then opening it up on the last day of the year ... but why stop with just one thing a day?  And why wait until the end of the year to read them?  These would be good things for us to read on those really hard days, our anniversaries or holidays or days when triggers bring us to a low spot. Those days happen to all of us.  

I'm going with colorful bits of paper, but you can cut up pieces of copy paper or use the back of an envelope or junk mail you receive. Just write it out and note the date, fold it up and place it in your jar. And keep adding to it. Every day. Because good things do happen each day, it's just harder to see them sometimes unless you're looking for them.

You receive a special note or card or FB message, someone lets you merge into the freeway (instead of speeding up!), you put fresh linens on your bed, you find a feather or heart along your travels, you accomplish a goal, those beauties in nature that often cross our paths - birds, butterflies, clouds, even Widowed Village could earn a slip of paper for providing you with this community! 

You could do this in a journal, too - I did that right after Vern died; kept it by my bed to write in each night - but I like the idea of this being visual, watching the jar fill up will be a good thing, too!  And I'm starting mine today because I just had a very unexpected delivery of flowers!


Such a good idea, Dianne. Our lives are filled with positives and beauty but sometimes we allow the negatives to dominate our thoughts. This is a great visual aid to help us turn around and to gently remind us when we're feeling down. Thanks for the suggestion!


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