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I am not a kid anymore I am 66.   The last time I dated was 45 years ago.  I am not sure that I want to date yet but am thinking maybe in the next year or so.

In the meantime I need a lot of help in HOW to date at my age. In the '60s as a late teen and in my early 20s I met most of those I dated at dances, I went on Friday and Saturday night around a country dance circuit.  Now if I meet men it is mainly as part of a couple and not as singles.

I don't want to go into online dating or go to a meet up I am not ready for that. But I would like to find someone to go to the movies etc with. 

Tell me your own experiences or where did you find that someone special?

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Laurajay, a further explanation. The man I go out with monthly is part of the coffee group I meet up with three or four times a week. So far we haven't told the others we go out to dinner sometimes. It isn't a secret but he seems reluctant to make an announcement.  I can see that it would alter the relationships we have both built up in the group which he joined long before I did. I have always turned down invitations from members of groups I have belonged to for that reason. It does complicate things. I  don't know why I decided differently this time.

I had been attending a widow/widower group where there was a couple dating. They didn't talk about it to anyone. He may feel that since you are already seeing each other 3-4 weeks in a social setting that this is enough time for him dating you once a month. It sounds as though he is the one holding the cards.

Seashell, you are spot on, the man sees me on a regular basis, w e may not even talk to each other but we are both there. I can see how that works. As usual I am overthinking. I need to just chill and enjoy the company of the group.

Well Sue, that does  make  a difference of you see him for coffee  a few  times each week   in addition to your  monthly dinners!   I was thinking you only  saw him for dinner  and occasional  fraternal  meetings  like  Lions or a church  guild.  Still  believe you should  keep your eyes open for  any good  opportunity  that  comes your  way....Frankly  your friend  may  remain  a friend  and  time for old folks passes  quickly...  we  need to not play  a waiting game at  our  age. And overthinking  just  enjoy  "now"  every  moment...It's all we can ever be assured  of having...


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