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Sounds like not a big deal but I took my grown kids and my granddaughter to Aruba. It was always a trip that my husband and I were going to take them...so I worried that at every dinner the waiter would look for the older man to give the check to...and I'd have to sit and stare at the water glass until he went away.
Or, on the beach if someone asked me directly where my husband was...I'd have to vaguely point to the pool...hahahaha
Anyway, we went...it was good/bad...his absence was continual and it felt like we were leaving him behind but ...we kinda are...I felt great to be the Matriarch. (and be able to spell it.)
So many things!!
1)I bought a house!
2) I bought my own car
3) I lost a TON of weight
4) I became more independent, assertive and not afraid to stick up for myself
5) I took all 4 kids by myself on a two week trip to FL for the one year anniversary. We went to WDW, Gatorland, NASA, ,Cocoa Beach and Universal Studios. All by myself. It was busy, and tiring, but we had a GREAT time!!! I would do it again in a heartbeat.
6) I moved houses and packed all by myself. I remember blogging about this...EVERY time my husband and I moved, we were NEVER ready the night before and were scrambling the day of the move. This time, I was ready for the movers to come and I did it all by myself. :)
I am sure there are many more, but Barry's death was a catalyst for me and made me do things on my own that I had never done before. And I am proud of myself!!
But mostly that I get out of bed each day.
MsKris, that's how I feel that we all get out of bed and either work, care for kids or ourselves, our homes, that we function and continue on deserves a purple heart, in my opinion.
Also, bought a new car, found a new school for my younger son and helped my older son adjust to his...changed jobs for better hours with my sons....and kept going.....that's what I do to honor him....
10 weeks in tomorrow and I'm proud of:
Good for you, Amber. Those are really big things to be very proud of.