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What have you done since your spouse died that you are super proud of?
Sounds like not a big deal but I took my grown kids and my granddaughter to Aruba. It was always a trip that my husband and I were going to take them...so I worried that at every dinner the waiter would look for the older man to give the check to...and I'd have to sit and stare at the water glass until he went away.
Or, on the beach if someone asked me directly where my husband was...I'd have to vaguely point to the pool...hahahaha
Anyway, we went...it was good/bad...his absence was continual and it felt like we were leaving him behind but ...we kinda are...I felt great to be the Matriarch. (and be able to spell it.)
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Permalink Reply by Momtofour on -
So many things!!
1)I bought a house!
2) I bought my own car
3) I lost a TON of weight
4) I became more independent, assertive and not afraid to stick up for myself
5) I took all 4 kids by myself on a two week trip to FL for the one year anniversary. We went to WDW, Gatorland, NASA, ,Cocoa Beach and Universal Studios. All by myself. It was busy, and tiring, but we had a GREAT time!!! I would do it again in a heartbeat.
6) I moved houses and packed all by myself. I remember blogging about this...EVERY time my husband and I moved, we were NEVER ready the night before and were scrambling the day of the move. This time, I was ready for the movers to come and I did it all by myself. :)
I am sure there are many more, but Barry's death was a catalyst for me and made me do things on my own that I had never done before. And I am proud of myself!!
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Permalink Reply by Carol Scibelli on
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I am speechless...which is a major big deal for me. You are incredible KrustyTheCat...but I'm sure you've heard that before!
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Permalink Reply by CrazyWidow on -
Seriously Krusty, that's amazing. Don't downplay it. You rock.
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Permalink Reply by CrazyWidow on
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It takes so much effort to do just that-way to go!
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Permalink Reply by Eileen on -
MsKris, that's how I feel that we all get out of bed and either work, care for kids or ourselves, our homes, that we function and continue on deserves a purple heart, in my opinion.
Also, bought a new car, found a new school for my younger son and helped my older son adjust to his...changed jobs for better hours with my sons....and kept going.....that's what I do to honor him....
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Permalink Reply by CrazyWidow on
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That's a lot of transition, way to keep your head above water through all of that!!
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Permalink Reply by asullivan on -
10 weeks in tomorrow and I'm proud of:
- Not curling up into the fetal position and giving up, I always imagined myself to be that kind of person, and I wasn't.
- Successfully planning his funeral, and the fact that so many people came.
- Have made all the arrangements for a new home, and wrote the check for the down payment last week.
- Hired 2 lawyers.
- Disassociated myself with all our debt, thankfully my husband carried our debt in his name and because there is no estate and no expected to be one I am not financially responsible.
- Gave up 2 large car payments, one of which was for my brand new car that I loved, and made the responsible decision to buy a used car, that I like but is much more financially friendly.
- Standing up for myself, well not all the time, but on occasion.
- And Carol I'm going to Hawaii in September...that's pretty exciting to me.
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Permalink Reply by Dianne in Nevada on -
Good for you, Amber. Those are really big things to be very proud of.
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