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What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
I had a person who was in the throes of divorce tell me that MY loss was "beautiful and romantic." My husband was dying of cancer at the time.
I felt sorry for her, and so, she went un-punched.
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Permalink Reply by Nolan's Mum on
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I had a "friend" half in the bag call me up on New Years Day. This person lives in an apartment in a seedy neighborhood, with a party husband, has no job, no kids, no house, doesn't even drive car say to me and has a cat not a dog. She said "I have been thinking a lot about you lately and I feel guilty because I have so much joy in my life." I just hung the phone up on her. My whole world could be turned upside down but I have a beautiful little boy, a home, car, job, parents and inlaws that adore me and a very cute loveable dog.
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Permalink Reply by Tweetyfan70 on -
Who says that to someone grieving tho?! Really?!!! What the hell ever happened to common courtesy??
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Permalink Reply by Toutie on -
So many people try to make our grief about them. I hope you dropped your "friend".
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Permalink Reply by bps1314 on -
Well my husband and I adopted our 2 daughters when they were 1 & 3. It was a kinship adopt case. My sister and her children have a problem with drugs. I had allowed them to see the girls until 1 1/2 years before my husband was in the accident. At that time they tried to kidnap the girls. We had stopped all contact of any sort then. They showed up at the hospital right at the same time I was taking my husband off life support. They wanted to "support and see the girls". I had given the girls a choice, they could come to the hospital or they could remember daddy playing and having fun with them. The girls had opted not to come to the hospital. My sister made that trip for nothing. I did not allow them in ICU or go to the waiting room to see them (Being with my husband was more important to me). We still do not have any contact with them at all. They are "so hurt" because I wouldn't take time to go talk to them. DUH!!!!!!!!
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Permalink Reply by Paula Rene on -
Best thing you could have done!!! For you and your girls.
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Permalink Reply by A Widowed Father on -
Definitely doesn't make the top of the list, but it was the first thing that came to mind. Let me preface by saying that I'm not often tolerant of or nice to telemarketers, or even customer service type phone calls in general, my thinking is if I wanted to talk to you, then I'd call you, and if you want to contact me send me a letter or an email, don't call me at home. Anyway that said, after my wife's passing, if people would call looking for her if they asked if she was available I'd reply not really being as she's sealed in a box six feet underground, if they asked if the could speak to her I'd reply that she's no longer able to speak, and I won't lie, I did get a certain sense of satisfaction from the quick sorry to bother you or whatever preceded the termination of the call. One day a particularly ballsy telemarketing woman actually answered with "are you serious or just playing with me" to which I replied with a short synopsis of the most horrific aspects of battling leukemia and ending up buried in a cemetery. She apologized and offered her condolences before hanging up.
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Permalink Reply by LLM2 on -
Love it! I do chuckle @ the shock some people express when I say, "No, Duane can't come to the phone/door, etc. because he's DEAD!"
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Permalink Reply by MissingRKK on -
I did that too!
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Permalink Reply by blueheaven on
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I have done that too! With my grandmothers passing as well as my husbands. The sound on the other end of the line makes my day :P
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Permalink Reply by CrazyWidow on -
I need to work this out with the bill collectors!
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