You're so right! I realize thinking about the people who keep telling me I need to find another relationship ARE indeed in bad marriages. At least many of them are. I just remembered my wife's friend who wanted to introduce me to her friend only three months into my grief, was dealing with the fact that her husband was having an affair. And others who have made such remarks think it's like replacing a pet dog which also to me would be difficult at best. Yeah, screw em all, let God sort em out.
thanks Bergen JC I have to remember that line some one recently told Me I had to put myself "out there" before my expire date" meaning before I am too old..... this I found funny and it came from my godfather I couldn't get mad.... I just laughed..... he is 71 lost his wife to throat cancer 5 years ago and it dating multiple gals... one is 6 mo younger than his daughter ..... he cracks me up...
I know right ? he his like 16 years older than I am and he seems to have to beat the gals off. LOL NICE FACE
This reminds me of something whihc happened to my wife, Connie. A couple years before I lost Connie, when she was still stationed at Ft. Dix, Connie went in for a PAP smear. The Medical Receptionist asks, "You still have a uterus?" Connies asked back, "What, is it like a library book? Was I supposed to check it in when I turned 50? Do I owe overdue fines?"
I know this is off topic, Moderators, you can remove it if it is improper, but it just goes to show there are insensitive people everywhere. Plus I wanted to share something which makes me laugh everytime I think about it.
My husband died of pancreatic cancer and I was often asked if he drank a lot (no) , was overweight (no) ate bad food (he was a health nut). I think everyone wants to have a reason so they can feel "safe". After 4 years and a lot of Camp Widows and talking online I can conclude that we are never safe. Any time any place any age any health profile.
Paula you are so right I have concluded same!
Who's NOT AFRAID or concerned about being left behind? Natural for peeps to put up defenses/walls against the inevitable. We are guaranteed that life will toss us unexpected turns on our road and we are left to adapt whether we lose our finances/mates/homes/health. Eat the best foods and be the healthiest you can but look for NO guarantees because there are many who eat badly and live long lives showing that life cannot always be controlled so some of us will be lucky to manage and maintain what we have built up.
NJ40 I AM SO VERY SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.. BUT THESE KINDA PEOPLE CANT BE HELPED UNFORTUNATELY.. AND AS SOMEONE FAMOUS ONCE SAID YOU CANT FIX STUPID ..I WISH YOU PEACE LOVE AND LIGHT AND MOST OF ALL HEALING IN YOUR JOURNEY.......
NJWidow. OH NO. Did you take the photo? I don't know what I would have done. Unbelievable. But, like something out of a Sienfield episode, huh?