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What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
I had a person who was in the throes of divorce tell me that MY loss was "beautiful and romantic." My husband was dying of cancer at the time.
I felt sorry for her, and so, she went un-punched.
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Permalink Reply by Boo on -
"It could be worse ... at least you're young ... everything happens for a reason."
All said by the same person - in one sentence.
I used to think she was intelligent, but I was clearly wrong.
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Permalink Reply by Hira Animfefte on -
Filed under, "Person Needing To Be Mailed A Clue."
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Permalink Reply by lareina57 on -
HI BOO, MY NAME IS LAREINA57,
MY HUSBAND PASSED AWAY IN AUGUST OF 2011, THE WORST THINGS THAT HAVE BEEN
SAID TO ME WERE- HE'S IN A BETTER PLACE , IT WAS GODS WILL, DID HE HAVE LIFE INSRANCE?
AND THAT'S NOT COUNTING THE NASTY CRAP THAT CAME OUT OF THE MOUTHS OF HIS "WONDERFUL
ADORING DAUGHTERS". I'VE HAD ENOUGH OF PEOPLE THAT "MEAN WELL " IN MY OPINION I THINK
THAT YOU WOULD BE BETTER OFF IF THEY WOULD JUST KEEP THEIR WELL MEANING THOUGHTS
TO THEMELVES, I'VE GOT ENOUGH S*** TO HANDLE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Permalink Reply by Bitterlee on -
I was venting in my personal journal, and a longtime reader said "LoL It will get better with time"
I wanted to strangle her.
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Permalink Reply by cleodoggie on -
From my sweet father...you should be over this by now..a year after Jim died. He should have known better because he lost my Mom when she was 47. The difference is that shortly after a year he remarried. It's a lot easier for a man to find a woman that for a woman to find a man. There are just more woman than men.
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Permalink Reply by Hira Animfefte on
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Now I want to strangle her too. Especially for the LoL part. WTF?
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Permalink Reply by lareina57 on
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HI BITTERLEE , MY NAME IS LAREINA57,
I'VE HEARD THIS ONE NUMEROUS TIMES , ALONG WITH YOU'LL FIND SOMEONE
ELSE TO LOVE YOU'RE STILL YOUNG ENOUGH, AND YOU NEED A MAN IN YOUR
LIFE. NO THANKS, HAD ONE HUSBAND AND LIKE I TOLD HIM BEFORE HE PASSED
HE WAS MY FIRST AND LAST MARRIAGE I DON'T WANT TO BE BOTHERED ANY
MORE, WITH MEN OR STEPKIDS, AND I DO'T HAVE ANY PROBLEM KEEPING THAT
PROMISE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Permalink Reply by lareina57 on
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HI BITTERLEE, MY NAME IS LAREINA57,
I'VE HEARD THIS ONE NUMEROUS TIMES ALONG WITH, IN TIME
YOU'LL FIND SOMEONE ELSE TO LOVE YOU'RE STILL YOUNG
ENOUGH, IT'S BEEN AWHILE YOU NEED A MAN IN YOUR LIFE, I
TOLD MY HUSBAND THAT HE WAS MY FIRST AND LAST MARRIAGE
AND I MEAN THAT, I DON'T WANT TO BE BOTHERED WITH MEN, OR
STEPKIDS AND THE CRAP THAT CAME OUT OF THE MOUTHS OF HIS
"ADORING GROWN KIDS. IN MY OPINION THOSE PEOPLE WITH THE
WELL MEANING COMMENTS NEED TO KEEP THAT B******* TO THEM-
SELVES I'VE GOT ENOUGH PAIN AND MISERY TO LAST ME A LIFETIME
I DONT NEED ANY HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Permalink Reply by LLM2 on -
A recently divorced friend told me that our grief was EXACTLY the same. Even though she is the one who divorced her husband. That her pain was equal to mine.
Bullshit. She was in pain but it.is.not.the.same.
And...5 months after Duane's death my mom said, "Aren't you over this yet? You should be over this by now."
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Permalink Reply by postal widow on
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this is premise of be, beginning experience, which makes grief the same in loss of spouse and divorce of spouse
grief of spouse loss, the loss is final, athough grief reoccurs with triggers, and with incorrect support of others your spouse is gone forever
grief in divorce is different because the spouse is alive, but reoccruing reassements happen so it a slow torture dance of getting along in the realtionship...
when there is no relationship you are imcomplete, empty.
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Permalink Reply by Momtofour on -
my mom would always say she knows how I felt being a single mom because she was divorced too. it PISSED me off because my dad was still around...my husband is not. My mom had all her family around, ,I do not. Divorce in NO FUCKING WAY compares to being widowed. I wanted to slap her sometimes.
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Permalink Reply by Catherine on
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My mom didn't say it directly to me, but told my grandmother that she knows what it is like to "lose" a husband. They divorced years ago when she left him (and her children) for another man. Ummmm....no, not the same at all. I can't even come close to understanding how someone could compare the two.
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