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"It could be worse ... at least you're young ... everything happens for a reason."
All said by the same person - in one sentence.
I used to think she was intelligent, but I was clearly wrong.
HI BOO, MY NAME IS LAREINA57,
MY HUSBAND PASSED AWAY IN AUGUST OF 2011, THE WORST THINGS THAT HAVE BEEN
SAID TO ME WERE- HE'S IN A BETTER PLACE , IT WAS GODS WILL, DID HE HAVE LIFE INSRANCE?
AND THAT'S NOT COUNTING THE NASTY CRAP THAT CAME OUT OF THE MOUTHS OF HIS "WONDERFUL
ADORING DAUGHTERS". I'VE HAD ENOUGH OF PEOPLE THAT "MEAN WELL " IN MY OPINION I THINK
THAT YOU WOULD BE BETTER OFF IF THEY WOULD JUST KEEP THEIR WELL MEANING THOUGHTS
TO THEMELVES, I'VE GOT ENOUGH S*** TO HANDLE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I was venting in my personal journal, and a longtime reader said "LoL It will get better with time"
I wanted to strangle her.
HI BITTERLEE , MY NAME IS LAREINA57,
I'VE HEARD THIS ONE NUMEROUS TIMES , ALONG WITH YOU'LL FIND SOMEONE
ELSE TO LOVE YOU'RE STILL YOUNG ENOUGH, AND YOU NEED A MAN IN YOUR
LIFE. NO THANKS, HAD ONE HUSBAND AND LIKE I TOLD HIM BEFORE HE PASSED
HE WAS MY FIRST AND LAST MARRIAGE I DON'T WANT TO BE BOTHERED ANY
MORE, WITH MEN OR STEPKIDS, AND I DO'T HAVE ANY PROBLEM KEEPING THAT
HI BITTERLEE, MY NAME IS LAREINA57,
I'VE HEARD THIS ONE NUMEROUS TIMES ALONG WITH, IN TIME
YOU'LL FIND SOMEONE ELSE TO LOVE YOU'RE STILL YOUNG
ENOUGH, IT'S BEEN AWHILE YOU NEED A MAN IN YOUR LIFE, I
TOLD MY HUSBAND THAT HE WAS MY FIRST AND LAST MARRIAGE
AND I MEAN THAT, I DON'T WANT TO BE BOTHERED WITH MEN, OR
STEPKIDS AND THE CRAP THAT CAME OUT OF THE MOUTHS OF HIS
"ADORING GROWN KIDS. IN MY OPINION THOSE PEOPLE WITH THE
WELL MEANING COMMENTS NEED TO KEEP THAT B******* TO THEM-
SELVES I'VE GOT ENOUGH PAIN AND MISERY TO LAST ME A LIFETIME
I DONT NEED ANY HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
A recently divorced friend told me that our grief was EXACTLY the same. Even though she is the one who divorced her husband. That her pain was equal to mine.
Bullshit. She was in pain but it.is.not.the.same.
And...5 months after Duane's death my mom said, "Aren't you over this yet? You should be over this by now."
this is premise of be, beginning experience, which makes grief the same in loss of spouse and divorce of spouse
grief of spouse loss, the loss is final, athough grief reoccurs with triggers, and with incorrect support of others your spouse is gone forever
grief in divorce is different because the spouse is alive, but reoccruing reassements happen so it a slow torture dance of getting along in the realtionship...
when there is no relationship you are imcomplete, empty.