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I had an awful one. A girlfriend was getting ready to leave her husband and she told me she'd love to "switch places" with me. Can you imagine? She was basically saying she wanted to be a widow. I advised her that if she wanted her husband dead it was definitely time to leave. It was awful and she had no idea how absurd it was that she was telling me this.
I actually felt sorry for her too and didn't punch her either.
A few months after Jimmy died, my mom called me and during the course of the conversation was telling me how she had been talking about Jimmy to a friend. She said "I don't know how it is for you, but I'm just now getting to where I can talk about Jimmy". This from a woman who lives 1600 miles away and saw my husband maybe every 5 years and she's talking about my soulmate who was everything to me. Yeah, I don't know how it is for me either, mom.
As for the telemarketers, I'm afraid I get rather blunt. I just say, he's dead, what do you want? It turns out that they really don't want anything after you say that.