DIVA70...3 days after my husband died suddenly my sister, who was also a very good friend of mine, said "Now you're single and so am I!". She had been separated for two years from her husband of 30 years at the time. It cut me like a knife at the time. I can see it differently now, 6.5 years later. Was it dumb? yes Was it braindead? yes Was it malicious? no Some people think they're helping, want to help, would give anything to make you feel better, and they certainly don't mean to hurt you. They don't know what they don't know. She may have thought she was being compassionate. Hard to fathom, but I can assure you it could be true. Grief is generally misunderstood by those with no experience.
A slightly different topic: My in-laws live about 900 miles away. A couple of months before my husband passed from brain cancer, I was talking to my sister in law about visiting my husband before he passes and plans when he inevitably passes away. I bought and paid for a plane ticket so she could visit my husband for his birthday (his last). I picked her up from the airport and was taking her out for dinner. She abruptly says, "Don't have a funeral because nobody will come." I was shocked at the comment and I wanted to throat punch her!!! In the end, I had a viewing...and didn't invite any of them.
On the anniversary of his next birthday I was visiting with his aunt and cousins. They wanted to know why I didn't have a funeral. So I told them the story. It's been almost four years since original the comment. Visited my in-laws last week and had an opportunity to tell sister in law that comment really hurt my feelings. I don't like making people feel bad, but feel like I got some closure.