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I had a "friend" half in the bag call me up on New Years Day. This person lives in an apartment in a seedy neighborhood, with a party husband, has no job, no kids, no house, doesn't even drive car say to me and has a cat not a dog. She said "I have been thinking a lot about you lately and I feel guilty because I have so much joy in my life." I just hung the phone up on her. My whole world could be turned upside down but I have a beautiful little boy, a home, car, job, parents and inlaws that adore me and a very cute loveable dog.
So many people try to make our grief about them. I hope you dropped your "friend".
Well my husband and I adopted our 2 daughters when they were 1 & 3. It was a kinship adopt case. My sister and her children have a problem with drugs. I had allowed them to see the girls until 1 1/2 years before my husband was in the accident. At that time they tried to kidnap the girls. We had stopped all contact of any sort then. They showed up at the hospital right at the same time I was taking my husband off life support. They wanted to "support and see the girls". I had given the girls a choice, they could come to the hospital or they could remember daddy playing and having fun with them. The girls had opted not to come to the hospital. My sister made that trip for nothing. I did not allow them in ICU or go to the waiting room to see them (Being with my husband was more important to me). We still do not have any contact with them at all. They are "so hurt" because I wouldn't take time to go talk to them. DUH!!!!!!!!
I think you good choices and should feel good about having done so.
Best thing you could have done!!! For you and your girls.
Love it! I do chuckle @ the shock some people express when I say, "No, Duane can't come to the phone/door, etc. because he's DEAD!"
I did that too!
I have done that too! With my grandmothers passing as well as my husbands. The sound on the other end of the line makes my day :P