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what to do with ashes ?
my wife passed awyay about ,about!!,no sorry exactly 9 weeks ago , one of her last request in fact vicki all ways said dont put me in a box in the ground ,I want to be cremated and then bought home so i can look over you all for a while, But we never really got around to talk about how long or what to do with her ashes in the end. The time is quickly approaching when we need to go and collect her ashes from the creamtorium and i dont know how i will handle that or what to do with them when i get them home. Any comments or suggestions would be appreciated.
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Permalink Reply by Juliana on -
It took me 4 1/2 months to decide what to do with Ken's ashes. For that period of time, he remained in the art niche along with many of his pictures. Each week I bought red roses to place by his urn. Finally, a friend of mine convinced me to have them put into the column barium at a local national cemetery. It was a beautiful service. However, I must confess that I kept some of his ashes out. Ken wanted his ashes spread in many different places. I sent some to his brother in Maine to be scattered on his parents and brothers graves and to be tossed into the wind at the top of a mountain that he loved to climb. I saved some to scatter into the Pacific Ocean off the coast of Oregon. We loved the west coast. The Coast Guard stations are very good about taking cremated remains and scattering them at sea. In 1973, the remains of our middle son were scattered in the Atlantic Ocean. Looks like my remains will have to be bi-coastal.
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Permalink Reply by Dianne in Nevada on -
Here are some links of older forums where similar discussions took place - in case you'd like to read them.
http://widowedvillage.org/forum/topics/asheswhat-to-do-with-them
http://widowedvillage.org/forum/topics/resting-place-photos
http://widowedvillage.org/forum/topics/tattoos-memorial-jewelry-and
By the way, my husband's urn remains in exactly the same place as shown in the photo I posted last June. I still haven't been able to spread his ashes anywhere, nor have I placed any in the angel wing locket I purchased. The funeral home gave me a small bag separate from his urn for this purpose and I have taken it with me on each of the trips I've taken, but it is still sealed. I'll do it one day, I'm sure, just haven't felt up to it yet. I also want our ashes mixed when I die and our son can then do whatever he wants with them ... scatter, bury, put in a columbarium, or stuck on a shelf in the closet.
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Permalink Reply by Joyce on -
Michele, you can always bury some and keep a little if it would make you feel better.
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Permalink Reply by Jackie (lvgma) on -
Spudrat, what you do is up to you. It's been 20 mths and my husband still sits on the bookcase sizing up the living room. His son told me we need to put his dad at the veterans cemetery, not, cause Im not ready to let him go. When the time comes I will know what to do, till then he can size me up..lol
Jackie
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