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Try this writing prompt without thinking too much about it ahead of time. Just start typing and see where it takes you.
I would ask:
Do you think I'm doing a good job with the kids?
(I would ask this because sometimes I feel guilty that they don't have him and they just have ME. He was such a creative, loving, skilled father that not only have the kids missed that, but I have missed learning from him as we go.)
What do you think of my new boyfriend?
(I'd ask this because I felt so completely and utterly sure that Ken was going to be right and perfect for me, and I do not have this same certainty with the man I'm seeing now. I would just like Ken to weigh in because I trusted his opinion on things!)
How can I be more like you?
(I'd ask this because I really would like to be more like Ken.)
Do you know how much I love and miss you?
Did you try and wake me prior to the "event"?
Are you ok with all the choices and decisions I have had to make without you?
Is that you messing with the tv in our bedroom some nights???? You know how I hated that you like to sleep with the tv on, now I can't sleep without it.
Are you not THRILLED that Madi is finally playing Lacrosse? And do you see how much more she looks like you now?? You always said she looks like me-but no-she looks like you more and more everyday.
Tell me what your new home is like....
The "why" (reason) for my questions is because I CAN'T ask them and that sucks.
How do I handle your mom?
How do I find the humor like you did?
What do you want me to do with your motorcycle?
Do you really want me to camp with the kids, or can I do something else and make you happy?
How do I really take care of your parents?