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I took mine off way before I started to date -- but I tend to get very long-lasting tans -- so I took mine off around the first anniversary, at the beginning of summer.... I figured that when I tan, it lasts till October, and by October, I'd probably be ready to date. Didn't want anyone to think I was cheating (or "on travel," as they say!).

Turns out my timing was nearly perfect....

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I took to wearing my rings on a necklace about 4 months after the accident and then finally put them away about 6 months because I was afraid to lose them.  I still put them on occasionally, especially around anniversaries.

I took mine off around about that time period ( up to six months) too. As I was gougn to be moving in another six months and, I was afraid to lose it. So, I put it away for safe keeping. I realised months afterwards how this may look but I thought, I love and adore my husband as he does me. Whether I wear the ring or not, I am through with what anyone may or may not think. The love is between us, in our heart and soul and everlasting.
I took mine off around about that time period ( up to six months) too. As I was gougn to be moving in another six months and, I was afraid to lose it. So, I put it away for safe keeping. I realised months afterwards how this may look but I thought, I love and adore my husband as he does me. Whether I wear the ring or not, I am through with what anyone may or may not think. The love is between us, in our heart and soul and everlasting.

Shannon, 

I did just that put them on a necklace and my mother told me while we were in the hospital one day that it looked silly it was like what teenagers do when they are going steady.

I took them off the necklace and they are on my pinkie on my left hand.

Ed died 10-1-2012

I can't remember when it was about 6 - 7 months after his death.  But I do remember what I had done with his wedding band. I had mine and his and the engagment ring melted together to form beautiful ring.  (will have to up load photo later)  I picked it up on my birthday, 1 year and 4 months after his death.

Hi Kim,

I too, had my wedding ring & Duane's wedding rings soldered together w/a 3 diamond 'eternity' ring between them.  Because he is with me yesterday, today and tomorrow.  I think it's lovely.  I would really like to see a photo of yours....

 

p.s. Are you the Kim from Michelle Neff's blog???? :)  If so, I LOVE your work.

I finally posted a photo of our rings.
lovely.
I love that idea! I'm not ready to take my ring off yet, but when I am, I'm going to do that.

Kitequeen:

I want to know what to do with my own rings as well.....I am too new in the grieving process to deal with what a lot of you have been going through dating etc etc. But I like that idea of making something special out of your rings.  I have a three tier wedding ring my engagement ring, wedding band, last to connect all together the one year anniversary band. I had them all soldered together. I did have to have them cut off twice because out of two of my pregnancies my hands were so swollen.

Trying to decide what to do with our rings.  I love your idea.  Did you ever post a picture?

Great idea.  I keep thinking I should do that.  Is it expensive?

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