I took mine off way before I started to date -- but I tend to get very long-lasting tans -- so I took mine off around the first anniversary, at the beginning of summer.... I figured that when I tan, it lasts till October, and by October, I'd probably be ready to date. Didn't want anyone to think I was cheating (or "on travel," as they say!).
Turns out my timing was nearly perfect....
I took mine off about a year or so ago. They don't stay off. I miss wearing them and the design and meaning etc. I see wedding bands on others and I realize what I don't have but do have. If that makes sense. Donna went into the hospital 7/10/11 and died in hospice 08/07/2011. I have put the rings on as my way of remembering though I never forget.
"On day arm and arm
We left home and and closed the door
You never returned"
I wore mine for several months after my wife died then I sent both of them to a jeweler in Upstate NY and had them melted down and had one ring made, a Claddagh.
I've been widowed for 3 months. I removed my wedding ring for a day last week, jut to see how I felt. It felt so strange and detached from having been married for 35 years. i also wasn't ready to give single- or married- men the wrong impression.
I've got it back on and feel protected again. I will probably take it off after one year, but who knows.
I believe I answered this already - that I removed my ring shortly after Ed died.
Recently my sister and I were going through my mother's jewelry (she died in March) and we came across a ring she had made! Silver and unmistakedly an S shape! We looked at each other, I popped it on my finger where it fit perfectly, and now I wear that ring. I have missed wearing a ring so this is just so perfect.
Wonderful ideas....I have 3 of Bill's wedding bands....and 3 of my rings...have no idea what I can make our of all of this....been thinking of it off and on doe almost 7 years...(:
I have answered this earlier, but here is an update: I have been widowed 4 1/2 years now. My own wedding ring became uncomfortably tight, but I did not feel comfortable with no ring. Solution: I have been wearing my husband's wedding ring on my middle finger for 4 years. It feels like a good way to acknowledge our connection and my widowed status, even if I'm the only one who knows. I find that even with it not on my ring finger, it seems to project the "I'm unavailable" vibe I was looking for. I doubt I'll ever take it off. This is such an individual decision, and I think anyone reading this should feel comfortable doing whatever feels right!
I totally agree, Hope. It's such an individual decision for any of us going through this and whatever any of us decide to do....should feel comfortable for us and we should know we are doing the right thing for us. My husband died close to three months ago and I wear his ring behind my wedding ring on my ring finger. This feels right for me. When and if that changes in the future....we'll see.
I am at 6 1/2 years and still not sure of what to do with our rings...I don't think there is anything I can do with Bill's to wear them....but mine are different....I put a very pretty and delicate wedding band on the other day that looks so pretty...it's all small diamond chips in a white gold band that points into a V in the center...so fragile.....I looked and looked at my engagement ring...and am thing either a pendant with just the center diamond or the small chips around it ....or what I would really like is the center diamond alone in a pendant...with the chips made into a pair of earrings.....I'm going to take it to a jeweler in my neighborhood who only has one of a kind jewelry...and see what he says is possible..finally a thought at least...couldn;t get there all these years...
So sorry about your loss. My hubby passed Oct. 15th '13 after 4 1/2 years of suffering with kidney cancer. He is buried with his ring. He couldn't wear it due to working in a mill. So now wearing it for eternity. I don't wear mine anymore due to being engaged.
I don't know what I will do with my diamonds.
Today is the 7th anniversary of Bill's death....he passed on my deceased daughter's birthday ..so it's a double whammy day for me....on Bill's first anniversary...I really lost it...the day was too much...my lost daughter's birthday and my husband's death....so I was like a robot....the next day I got up and went food shopping..when I got back..I looked at Bill's picture..and started screaming at him...about leaving me, and probably every argument we ever had in our marriage...I took off my wedding band and threw it at his picture...the next day..I put it back on and it just never felt right again...
Now I am with Kaydee......I have 2 diamond wedding bands..one doesn't look like a wedding band and I do wear that on my right hand at times....but have never worn my engagement ring and a platnum and diamond wide wedding band I have...and Bill had 3 wedding bands in all different sizes..after 7 years I still can't decide if I should have something made from rings...and what to do with his....I still have a couple of pieces of Bill's jewelry and am so unsure what to do...people tell me to sell it....which makes sense...otherwise it will all sit in a lock box until I pass and then my daughters will have to deal with it...very confusing...
I still wear mine, 17 months out. I still feel as though I'm married and I don't know if I could remove them and still feel okay. I think if I would have passed away before my husband, he would wear his until the end of his days. There are days when I feel as if I should, but then I reason, why? There is nothing that is right for everyone, so I'll just figure it out as I go along.