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I took mine off way before I started to date -- but I tend to get very long-lasting tans -- so I took mine off around the first anniversary, at the beginning of summer.... I figured that when I tan, it lasts till October, and by October, I'd probably be ready to date. Didn't want anyone to think I was cheating (or "on travel," as they say!).

Turns out my timing was nearly perfect....

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I wore my hustands band on my index finger for a long time, I bought a spacer at Walmart to help it fit.  But, one day, I put it aside.

Has anyone worn a widows band? Just today I was looking at a slim infinity ring with tiny black stones...not espensive at all...I don't want to stop wearing my wedding band, bit I feel like want a black "armband" on it...I can't explain why...maybe I still just want to shout at the world.."my husband died !!!!" !!!!

I have what I call a "widow ring".  It is a black diamond surrounded by tiny white ones.  Only I know what it means.  It looks ambiguous.  It could be an engagement ring (and indeed, some people have bought the same ring as one).  It could be a wedding set.  Or it could be just a ring.  I wear it all the time like I did my wedding ring.

Yes I have been wearing my widow ring for years. It's basically a eternity ring of black diamonds  ( I stopped wearing my wedding rings at 6 months.  I lost 50 pounds in four months so they fell off.  It seemed stupid to resize them.

I took my band off probably about 6 months after.  I don't really remember the date which is odd for me. Anyway, I think I'll always feel like I'm still married to him but I didn't feel right wearing the ring anymore.  It's been about 2 years since I stopped wearing it and just now I looked at my ring finger and realized that the indentation is gone now... I love that some of you have had your rings reconfigured and would really enjoy seeing photos.

I tried removing both our rings when I started dating, but I started dating too soon for me. I broke up with the guy and started wearing both rings together again. I liked the soft clink of his ring against mine. He had bigger hands and I used mine to keep his in place. But about a year and a half ago, I put his away in the silver ring box that our ring bearer held while walking down the aisle during the wedding ceremony.

Almost three and a half years later, I still wear mine as a reminder of how much I was loved and how proud I was to be married to Gary.  I’m not ready to start dating. If I ever decide to take mine off, I’ll put it in the silver box along with his.

No removal here.

About two weeks ago I smashed my finger very hard with a rock using all my strength.  It's a long story, but my finger,  my ring finger , was all manner of purple and blue, and the nail is black and blue. I kept it covered because it was horrifying.  Finally got past all of that , the finger has recovered, but the nail on my ring finger is still black.  I was going out today, and I thought, I'll just paint just that one pink.  Well, don't you know , it just would not hide it.  So, I stopped at CVS and picked up some black nail polish and painted just the ring finger nail black.  Wow, it really reflected my sense of mourning as a widow.  I think a man or a woman could do this.  I didn't want to stop wearing my rings, at least not yet, but I think I will go forward with the one black nail as a sign of morning . 

I’ve been waffling about what to with my rings. I’m over a year now.

My house was recently broken into and a bunch of my jewelry was stolen. I’m so thankful I was wearing my rings at the time. 


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