I took mine off way before I started to date -- but I tend to get very long-lasting tans -- so I took mine off around the first anniversary, at the beginning of summer.... I figured that when I tan, it lasts till October, and by October, I'd probably be ready to date. Didn't want anyone to think I was cheating (or "on travel," as they say!).
Turns out my timing was nearly perfect....
You are doing so many things to show others how to blend their new life with their old life, Stephen. Thank you.
katpilot ....how wonderful....God bless you both...share your love and your love for your deceased spouses with pride..what a beautiful relationship you have.....
I so love this, gigicarol! Beautiful.
This is just beautiful and what a wonderful Idea....thank you for sharing...
I love that. If my husband had actually worn his band (he lost his original one and never wore the replacement) I would do the same. But this is great. Thanks for sharing the photo!
It is so interesting and telling about when you took of your rings.
I wore mine which were two the original wedding bands of two rolling rings one pink gold the other yellow and for the ten year anniversary a plain band with amor vincit ominia engraved for about four years after Donna's death. I took it off.
Since I don't have any jewelry I will put my bands on around Christmas and wear them until Donna's birthday 2/14. I keep thinking that not wearing them will be a good sign that I will meet someone organically... like hell. Ha
I admit I do wear Donna's rings on a chain. The joke I would tell my counselor at CancerCare was that if I dated anyone I would have to take the chain off for fear of the rings on the chain swinging during the horizontal tango and I would chip my dates tooth.
Thanks all for your insight.
Your photo is really beautiful, Mark. I'm at 7 years and still wear Vern's band with a widow's band holding it in place. I haven't planned on dating, so it really hasn't been an issue for me. I've taken them off at home at times but haven't gone out anywhere without them. However, very recently I've contemplated the option of dating and think I'd probably either move them over to my right hand or put them on a chain if that should ever happen. Your comment, however, made me LOL.
It's been three weeks, the night he died, I put my husband's ring on and took mine off. Not sure how long I will wear it, but for now it is right.
Izzie, I also wear my husband’s wedding ring. Bob passed almost 5 years ago. About 2 years ago when I reached into my jewelry box to take out my wedding ring I picked up his wedding ring instead, and I have worn it everyday since. Peace to all.